First of all im kinda venting and being thankful for my man. Please dont be harsh. Im not shallow neither is my SO. He loves me in my sweats w no makeup and will take me out like that...I just wont let him.LOL We have very few problems and this being really the main one at the same time I know im lucky he is this way. Its kinda long but I just want to explain and see what other woman think about it along w if they have this issue/wonderful quality in their man!
So I wanted some platform pumps for xmas. for my dress that day im short and love adding xtra hight when wearing a dress. My SO did SOME shopping for me. Then decided either way he wants to take me shopping and get me some things. I hate doing this for 2 reasons 1. is its part of my xmas and theres no suprize 2. We dont agree....
So 1st try at the mall all I can think about is the shoes I want and a cute shrug/cardigan for my dress. Well he thinks I cant walk in them cause I dnt wear heels often and he hates how shrugs look on anyone. So he refuses to let me decide at that point. after many stores and a bag full of barets(my fav hat) im whinning like a spoiled teen and hes pissed. Next day at kohls huge sale he wants to by me boots I have 6 pairs already but very few heels(outdated). So I encourage him and try them on....I like...then he picks another pair and another...all cute. So 4 pairs later were at the pumps. 25.00 I try on and almost fell but these were 4 in w a not so flat plat form in the front and the heel was stick thin. I tell him no not these I will need to find a more stable pair. He doesnt care at all. So on to the clothes Im looking at shrugs and cardigans but he only cares about what he wants for me. Yes he picked out some very nice sweater dresses w leggins to match....So I gave in I agreed I compromised but he is not willing at all to let me pick/decide for myself.
So in the end I come home tried on my xmas dress and skirt outfit w a pair of ankle boots he insisted will look good and no need to by the paltform pumps. Well they didnt look good w dress or skirt and he tells me that dresses and skirts are not my thing cause they make me look younger(i get his point and know its true) which is not good cause hes a bit older than me. So Itry on all the boots and clothes he picked out. I Love them all very flatering for me considering im small they actually show I have a figure. so Im wearing one of the outfits he picked out for xmas day. Im only upset that those are outfits Id wear any day if leaving the house. I Love dressing up and those arent to dressy for anything. So I dont get to go all out kinda dressy for xmas which is only one of a few times I have an excuse to really be dressy.
Im very happy and thankful for all that he does for me and that he wants me to look my best. I think im really lucky to have a man who cares that much and can go shopping with or for me. In the end we do agree and I agree all along but have to go in to brat mode when I cant have a say in my own style and he wont even consider. And I do shop w out him and I pick out stuff he likes on me. I do have style and taste on my own. So there is a positive to this and a negative. I want him to continue shopping w me and for me. I love that!
Although after 51/2 yrs together he has finally learned that I cant wear womans,misses, or petite sizes. I have to shop in juniors but oviously the more sophisticated and classy section so I can represent being a mom. But He still complains he doesnt like my tight jeans, there not tight tight just form fitting. But the outfits he picked out are leggings and sweater dresses that are snug and very form fitting....and I like! He knows me and thats wonderful but as styles and seasons change so do I. I just want him to accept that. If I dont look good or he feels its embarassing then by all means I wont wear it. I do want to look good for myself and for him. I love love love when he likes what he sees.
What is your man like when it comes to shopping, or when u pick out what u want to wear from your closet? Does he buy clothes for u or have an oppinion? Does he pick out any of your gifts on his own...all,some or none? DO u make a list and he pick things from there? And w/o being mean am I being a brat sometimes or to easy to control. Is there a wrong or right way to handle/deal w this.
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