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hhhmmmm mariage agaian should i

well i have 6 kids they all love my fiancee we been engaged 7 mnths dated 2 yrs but marriage would be my third time trying should i

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Asked by Anonymous at 1:00 PM on Dec. 23, 2010 in Relationships

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  • I don't know should you? We can't answer this for you. If you're having doubts then maybe you shouldn't

    Answer by mommy_of_two388 at 1:01 PM on Dec. 23, 2010

  • only u can answer this but good luck momma

    Answer by san78 at 1:08 PM on Dec. 23, 2010

  • IMO. No.

    Answer by louise2 at 1:09 PM on Dec. 23, 2010

  • Follow your heart not your head.... Dont let the fact of this being your 3rd influence your decision. Its should be based on love and trust and your family. Some one wrote but dont know who.....When Love is involved logic and reason go out the window. If He loves u and your kids and u love him than thats all that matters. Its your decision alone not your kids not your past not us CM members.

    Answer by mymestey at 1:09 PM on Dec. 23, 2010

  • ur answer was the most sincere i have a lil doubt sometimes not cuz i dont love him cuz of my other marriages and how they failed thank u so much for ur opinion

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 1:13 PM on Dec. 23, 2010

  • What are you going to do differently this time? Being in love is not any help if you act in controlling or self-serving ways (especially when you feel provoked --how we behave under stress is often the most noticed indicator of how we genuinely feel, and how people feel treated by us)...

    Much more than feeling love matters: loving behaviour, respectful attitudes, acceptance and genuine kind regard for other people's opinions and choices are all essential to develop in order to maintain any long-term, voluntary relationship. If you haven't yet, you're going to have to, learn to control yourself: what you say and when and how you say it, what you do and what you choose not to do... how you handle conflicts. Because there will be conflicts --some of which you will never, ever agree on. How do you handle that?

    Love is a verb, not a feeling --something you do, every day, even when you don't particularly want to.

    Answer by LindaClement at 1:29 PM on Dec. 23, 2010

  • Third time's a charm!

    You say your kids love him. I'm assuming he thinks the world of your kids. Are you living together now? Why not just have a long engagement until you're both fully ready to get married?

    Answer by _Tam_ at 7:57 PM on Dec. 23, 2010

  • Your questions should not be should you marry again, your questions should be WHY should you marry again? What are the benefits for you that you don't have now? You want more kids? Why is it necessary if you've been happy with him up to now?

    Answer by ShouldHaveLeft at 8:56 PM on Dec. 23, 2010

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