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How do I help a sexually active 15 year old?

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Cute_txn

Asked by Cute_txn at 5:11 PM on Jul. 6, 2008 in Teens (13-17)

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  • Get all the info you can and lay it out in front of her/him. Show them statistics. Show them people with AIDS. Show them what happens if they catch HPV. Show them how difficult things can be as a teen parent. Not sure if this is a boy or girl we're referring to, but see if you can actually SHOW them these things. Take them to talk to teen parents or people with AIDS.
    ReneeK3

    Answer by ReneeK3 at 5:14 PM on Jul. 6, 2008

  • Information helps, but on top of that you want to get them everything you can to protect them too. Sometimes information isnt enough and ifnormation wont protect them from std's and pregnancy. Planned parenthood can help with forms of birth control for boys and girls. Good luck.
    TheCrystalBall

    Answer by TheCrystalBall at 5:34 PM on Jul. 6, 2008

  • Make sure they know all the facts about STDs & pregnancy... show him/her those nasty STD pictures if you have to. Also, tell him/her to ALWAYS use protection b/c an unwanted pregnancy could ruin their life (We all know a baby doesn't really ruin your life, but a 15 year old might buy it.)
    crazysocks830

    Answer by crazysocks830 at 6:23 PM on Jul. 6, 2008

  • Talk openly about the consequences of unprotected sex, info about birth control and how and where to get it. Be honest about parenthood and if you can, expose the teen to real life childrearing. I would also consider reviewing the advantages of being abstinent for a few more years so she/he is capable of taking care of himself/herself if STDs come up or a child developes.
    manna1qd

    Answer by manna1qd at 6:34 PM on Jul. 6, 2008

  • I suggest sitting down with the child and watching a movie called Girl positive. Its about a girl in high school who slept with one boy He later died of a wreck and found he was Hiv positive. She went and got tested and She was HIV positive. This boy slept with MANY girls and exposed all of em to aids. Its a true story. it made us Hubby and I think we are going to record it and Watch it with our girls when they get older.
    pebbles86

    Answer by pebbles86 at 7:05 PM on Jul. 6, 2008

  • have them watch girl positive 16 and pregnant 10 things i hate about you homeless to harvard and stuff like that
    Patience1

    Answer by Patience1 at 7:32 PM on Jul. 6, 2008

  • Straight facts. Let her know all the information, the statistics all that stuff and make sure that if she does get pregnant what kind of responsibilites she will have to deal with.
    barefootbchbum

    Answer by barefootbchbum at 9:09 PM on Jul. 6, 2008

  • give her information, pictures when possible, and then a box of condoms. not what you want to hear, but she's gonna do it, she should be protected.
    princezzmommie

    Answer by princezzmommie at 11:48 PM on Jul. 6, 2008

  • i agree with everyone else but make sure that he/she also understands that putting these good sexual behaviors in play is not only safe but a part of respecting themselfs and those they are sleeping with.
    kharmasmom

    Answer by kharmasmom at 7:11 PM on Jul. 7, 2008

  • Im nowhere near having a teen but one thing Id wish Id known/thought about at 15 was self-respect. Most girls at that age are doing it because they think that theyre impressing the guy or that its "what all the girls are doing." STDs and teen pregnancy are important to know about too but letting her know that she doesnt have to impress a boy with her body and about the emotional outcome from those types of situations are something that will also help her gain confidence in other aspects of her life later on. Tell her about all the things a guy SHOULD be looking for in her besides sex. The more confidence she has the less likely she'll make a bad decision.
    jessicarae787

    Answer by jessicarae787 at 11:47 PM on Jul. 7, 2008

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