In my family,they believe that if you raise a child to 18,its the kid's responsibility to be at your parent's beckoned call for the rest of their days,even if it impacts your life negatively. Even if your spouse disagrees. This included financially supporting them.
My grandma had 11 kids. All but 5 moved away. The 5 that stayed acted upon her wishes. The other 6 moved on with their lives. They called,send cards,visited when money allowed. Those 6 were ridiculed for having their own lives.
In part,my mom expects this of me. She takes takes takes,but feels that it isn't her place to do anything for me. That's my husband's job,so she says.
So what do you think? Are you/do you expecting your kids to wait on you hand and foot once they grow up? Are you allowing them their own lives? A combo of both?
Answer by LindaClement at 1:32 PM on Dec. 23, 2010
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Answer by -AJ at 7:18 PM on Dec. 24, 2010
I respect my parents for raising me, but I do not feel it is my job (or my husband's) to support them. They wouldn't ask us to. His mom is another story - she thinks that since my husband is the only one of her 5 kids that turned out to be worth anything, not only should he be willing to give her money anytime, he should also bail out the rest of the kids when they can't make the house payment or have their truck repoed because they would rather waste their money than pay their bills. I would quite simply tell your mom you would like to have her be a positive part in your life, but if that can't be the case then it's time for you to move on. Good luck!
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