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Is 20 too young to get married?

 
shanapiv

Asked by shanapiv at 12:02 AM on Dec. 25, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Its not too young, just make sure youre doing for the right reasons
    leksismommy

    Answer by leksismommy at 12:06 AM on Dec. 25, 2010

  • Not if YOU'RE ready.. But if you have the slightest bit of doubt, don't do it (I did one time and I regret marrying him....we're not divorced lol)
    proudmommy690

    Answer by proudmommy690 at 12:04 AM on Dec. 25, 2010

  • In general, yes. I was engaged at 19, almost 20, and I am SOOOOO glad I didn't marry that guy!! I'm such a different person at 30 than I was at 20.
    musicpisces

    Answer by musicpisces at 12:04 AM on Dec. 25, 2010

  • No. It's perfectly legal, but my marriage didn't work out- I was 20 and he was 19 at the time. We made it for 5 years- married for 4 of those, but at such a young age as you get older and mature you start to realize you're not who you thought you were, and start wanting different things for yourself. It's better to wait.
    badgirl44654

    Answer by badgirl44654 at 12:05 AM on Dec. 25, 2010

  • I married my DH when I was 20. We are going on 6 years.
    ashisamom

    Answer by ashisamom at 12:08 AM on Dec. 25, 2010

  • I'm 30, and I'm still only 60% sure that I'd ever get married again. It's been almost 6 years since my marriage ended, and I still have some regrets, and would have done some things differently, but it's too late for that. And I don't know if you've ever heard it put this way but if you get divorced you grieve just like if the person had died. I was hysterical for a while even though I knew it was coming. Couldn't work, needed help taking care of my daughter- It was SO PAINFUL emotionally.
    badgirl44654

    Answer by badgirl44654 at 12:10 AM on Dec. 25, 2010

  • I wanted to die for a while. If you even have a tiny bit of doubt, DO NOT DO IT. Do not do it for your child, it would end up being tougher on them in the long run than if you had never married to begin with.
    badgirl44654

    Answer by badgirl44654 at 12:12 AM on Dec. 25, 2010

  • it depends on the persons involved. My hubby and I are going on 8 years on the 27th, we got married when we were 19 and every day is better than the last. I wouldn't have done it any other way
    Melbornj

    Answer by Melbornj at 12:12 AM on Dec. 25, 2010

  • I Promise You for Most Women 20 is Way Too Young! i was 18 the first time i got married & had my daughter at 19; i left him 3 weeks after she was born & Never looked back-we were both too young & in way over our heads- You have plenty of time to get married one day.............

    daisyb

    Answer by daisyb at 12:15 AM on Dec. 25, 2010

  • I think it's a very rare thing to find a man who is ready to get married at that age. It's more common to find a woman ready to get married then. I was ready at 20, but not at 19. I did a lot of growing up that year. I started dating my now husband at 20, got married at 21, and we're still happy. I'm only 27, but it's working great so far. :) My husband wasn't ready to get married till he was 25 or 26 he says. He was almost 27 when we got married. We were both looking for spouses when we started dating, so that may have helped.
    corbysmom531

    Answer by corbysmom531 at 12:15 AM on Dec. 25, 2010