Why do birthmothers refer to the child they ditched as "their" child?
I keep reading where birth mother's say "my son" or "my daughter" when referring to the child they gave up. This even happens when they talk about that child and their family (who adopted them). This really disturbs me as a child who was adopted. If I knew the woman who gave me up called me her daughter, well I think I would kill her. My mother is wonderful, took care of me, raised me, wiped my tears, LOVED ME enough to keep me forever, she is my best friend. She is strong, even through tough times (birth mother = weak). My father is wonderful as well. Those are my parents. It sickens me to think anyone else thinks they are when all they did was get knocked up, then relinquish all responsibility. Why do you do this?!?
Oh in cases of rape - I do not feel negatively towards birth mother's, although abortion would have been a better choice.
Men who dont take responsibility - deadbeats
Women who dont take responsibility - birth mothers? WTF They are deadbeats as well!
Oh and I do not have any issues as you sugest. I have a wonderful life, it just irritates me too read. I have always been an opinionated woman, I am strong like that. I get it from my mother not biological)!
I have dealt with my birthmother situation, she is weak. She is not my mother, that is it.
There is no emotional bond to a baby while it is in you, a bond requires two people. Babies do not love you while in the womb, or once out. There is a need relationship, baby has need, you meet it. This is scientific fact.
Asked by Anonymous at 6:55 AM on Dec. 25, 2010 in Adoption
Answer by Southernroots at 8:19 PM on Dec. 25, 2010
Answer by AtHomeMommy-3 at 7:32 AM on Dec. 25, 2010
I don't think bio parents "ditched" their child, their decision might have been very difficult and painful. Just because someone makes a loving decision to give a child to someone who is better equipped to raise it doesn't mean they don't love the child also.
Answer by RyansMom001 at 6:59 AM on Dec. 25, 2010
Answer by TJFBGMommy at 7:47 AM on Dec. 25, 2010
Answer by adopteeme at 9:26 AM on Dec. 25, 2010
Answer by Jessica157 at 11:47 AM on Dec. 25, 2010
Answer by kingkongsmom at 7:16 AM on Dec. 25, 2010
A friend of mine in high school was having a rough time. She was 15, an alcoholic and then found herself pregnant. Becoming pregnant with that baby probably saved her life. She stopped drinking, started going to AA and took care of herself for the sake of that child. BUT, she knew she couldn't keep it. Her home life was rough and she had not family support (hence the reason she had started drinking at age 12 in the first place). Another friend of ours mother let her stay with her, but she knew she wouldn't be able to support the baby and she had no where to live. She spent a lot to time finding parents for her unborn daughter. That was 20 years ago. She has since married and had more children, but she has never forgotten her oldest child, the child who most likely saved her life, the one she gave up because the baby deserved better than she could give her. (cont)
Answer by layh41407 at 8:04 AM on Dec. 25, 2010
Answer by layh41407 at 8:06 AM on Dec. 25, 2010
Answer by kerp1960 at 10:44 AM on Dec. 25, 2010
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