I miscarried in February 2007 after I had a seizure and injured myself quite badly. I was about 4 wks pregnant with a baby my husband and I had tried for. At the time i was devastated and felt incredibly guilty that by fitting i'd 'killed' my baby. I was upset but I dont feel I grieved like I grieved when I lost my mother. I wasnt as upset as I was when I was told my daughter needed a pacemaker fitted, i dont feel i grieved like other mothers ive met/seen on here have done.
I soon got pregnant again with my daughter who was born in December 2007...and although i often wonder what that baby would've looked like, who it'd act like etc, i dont feel like I mourn it anymore, i feel like I got over it quite quickly. I still feel ive lost a baby but I dont count it as a pregnancy nor as one of my children.
But i see angel tickers on Cm and people referring to their 'angel babies' even when they lost them as early as I did. I loved that baby even though i only knew it existed for a couple of days..but i dont see it as an 'angel'or anything like that. Does this make sense???
Am i alone? Am i being heartless? I feel like I am when I say this is my 3rd pregnancy and stuff when if you wanna get techincal its my fourth. It just gets complicated when i start saying "This is my 4th pregnancy, but once was twins and one was a miscarriage" and I never say that I'm a mum of 3 (nearly 4) and one angel or anything like that....?
Im not referring to mothers who lost babies later on in pregnancy or who were stillborn or passed away soon after birth, but those who lost in the first trimester.
Answer by sissy0604 at 5:52 PM on Dec. 26, 2010
Answer by SinfulBliss at 9:36 AM on Dec. 26, 2010
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Answer by jwaren at 9:38 AM on Dec. 26, 2010
Answer by ladyambition at 9:56 AM on Dec. 26, 2010
To be honest, I feel the same way as you knickers. There is nothing wrong with the way you are feeling, don't let anyone on here make you feel guilty or like you are doing something wrong. And nowhere did you bash or judge anyone!!!!!!!!
Answer by Mum2twouk at 10:23 AM on Dec. 26, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 10:38 AM on Dec. 26, 2010
Answer by But_Mommie at 10:46 AM on Dec. 26, 2010