my only child
father and i not together
never were married
in this state, if unmarried parents, mother has all rights until father files
i think he does not want to go to court (he has mentioned we can work it out ourselves)
i think he does not want to for a few reasons
1-he knows court will go up to 17% of his income (he figures he can pay me less)
2-go to court and his "sexual fetish which broke us up-may be mentioned and become public)
i have filed for and was just approved for food stamps, this will start the state into looking into father paying some support for his child
i am correct in thinking that now, state, and the county i now live in will go after him for support, therefore it will be in the 'system' and at least will have to go to moderation, unless he does not fight the amount? also will the 'system' now need to have something legal as which parent has custody, placement etc?
i will be going for full placement and full custody with him only having visitation if i am around - no unsupervised visitation (he will not like this, but may backdown knowing his 'fetish' may come up)
also i have journal if him not being responsible -leaving her outside by herself -she is three, he had her over hot stove stirring, and she burned herself(no medical report-too slight-thank God not bad), has water heater up past reccomended temp for children in house-sculding temps, he left her in tub with water running, screaming swearinga t me while she was in room, set his other daughters barbies in sexual positions (whatever? that is?)taking her to his moms for the day, staying full weekend, she comes back, hair never combed, he did not take her pink eye drops (i had to start her treatment days all over again)
also called and spoke to therpaist we sawbefore i left, she said that she would testify in court. also i have in journal what therpaist said to me (he does not know) "worried for safty, do not leave daughter alone with him, do not have her naked around him, no sexual boundaries, etc
i am visiting his house today with my daughter, if custody comes up in conversation
what to say, what not to??
any ideas, good stories outcomes, bad ones?
remember we were never married
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