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1st Bond can be formed between a pregnant woman carrying a child/woman who birthed a child, is it possible or not possible?

Why do people say it's not possible for a child/ren to form a bond with there Biological Mother in the womb? Or for that child/ren to not have a bond with there Biological Mother after the birth?

Is it because the person/s who are raising that child and now have the chance for that child/ren to bond with them/ for that child to possibly bond with them.. Want to say that child 1st bonded/had the strongest bond with the person/s raising that child/ren.

And why do people prefer to see a woman who is pregnant with there child or giving birth to there child, not as the childs Biological Mother or Birth Mother who is giving birth/did give birth to her own child/ren. But only as the woman, Who Is/Was pregnant with a child/ren and just a woman who births/birthed a child/ren?

And Do you feel The term "birthmother", "birthmom", bmom or any other term"that is used to label a woman/women who are/was pregnant with her child/ren or giving birth to her child/ren.

Is a way of saying the woman/women who are/or were pregnant with a child/ren. And the woman/women who births/or birthed a child/ren. Were never/never can be classified as a Mother to the child they carry/carried/birth/birthed. And that the child they are pregnant with/birth/ or did birthed. Never was/And never can be seen as there child/ren.


Asked by Anonymous at 4:42 PM on Dec. 26, 2010 in Adoption

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Answers (2)
  • There are many reasons that people like to dismiss the significance of the mother of a child who relinquishes a child to adoption:

    1) Ignorance;
    2) Insecurity; and
    3) Fear.

    The above are the most common reasons I think. Many people go into adopting still believing some of the old beliefs from that past, such as the child being a blank slate with no connections to its birth family. Many people who adopt know otherwise. When people first become parents too, they are often insecure in the beginning and may have have trouble acknowledging the existence of birth family because of their insecurities. Plus, they may fear there IS a bond between a child and its first mother and that scares them. Some people are very threatened by the existence of birth/natural moms and others are very secure in their roles as parents.

    Answer by Southernroots at 5:02 PM on Dec. 26, 2010

  • i think the 1st bond has something to do with the first feeding,at least id like to think that..

    Answer by angelairelan at 4:50 PM on Dec. 26, 2010