I'm 22 years old, I'm in my 5th year of college, I found out I was pregnant on the first of November. I always said that in the event of an unplanned pregnancy I would have an abortion I told my (then boyfriend) this and we agreed that's what would happen. Well, when I actually got pregnant I had a hard time deciding that I was going to get an abortion. Now, there is still time, and I am keeping that option open, but I have no clue what to do. The father does NOT want a baby and pressured me to get an abortion. When I said I wasn't sure I wanted to do that, a lot of fighting and arguing ensued. He is 35 and a nurse--he is also still legally married, and living with his wife whom he is 'separated' from but she has no idea we carried on a relationship for months.
I don't know what to do. Both my parents are deceased so there is no help there. It would rip my heart out to place for adoption and I'm not sure I can parent.
Answer by Melbornj at 11:35 PM on Dec. 26, 2010
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Answer by hollyanne31 at 12:31 AM on Dec. 27, 2010
If I were you I'd chose to parent. Parenting is difficult but the rewards are enormous. I have given a baby up for adoption and I would highly recommend against it. The pain does get easier, in my case it got worse, you never get over it and subsequent children cannot replace the one you lose. People might try to lure you with the promise of open adoption, which can be great for both the mom and the child. But, open adoption is not legally enforceable and once you sign the papers you have no more legal right to your child than I do. If you think you could do open adoption but never a closed one, then don't do adoption.
I know women who have had an abortion and given a child up for adoption and they all say the pain of adoption is much worse than the pain of abortion. I say keep your baby and consider yourself blessed :) good luck.
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