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Is it right to really blame the other women, if she didn't know?

I mean he is the one that knows what he is doing... the other women doesn't usually know.... So why blame her?

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Asked by sissy0604 at 3:17 PM on Dec. 27, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Can't be mad at her if she didn't know. I think the anger comes out when the other women finds out that he is married and continues to pursue him.

    Answer by Claudiomom at 3:19 PM on Dec. 27, 2010

  • Well, usually the other woman knows. But, it is the man's fault because for sure, he knows that he is in a relationship.

    Answer by mom2priceboys at 3:20 PM on Dec. 27, 2010

  • I blame the person who made the commitment to me .

    Answer by pinkdragon36 at 3:23 PM on Dec. 27, 2010

  • Even if she did know, I have never understood the point in being upset with her. HE made the commitment. HE is responsible to keep that commitment, not her! No matter if she knows or not, it's not her job to make sure he doesn't step out on his marriage, it's his. Her job is to look out for her, not you, not him - But her! So why get upset with her? She didn't break the rules, he did.

    Answer by SabrinaMBowen at 3:23 PM on Dec. 27, 2010

  • Only think the other woman should be blamed is when she knows he is married and still wants him. But he is still to blame because he is the married one.

    Answer by justme581 at 3:24 PM on Dec. 27, 2010

  • if she didn't know, truly, which i think most women usually do and just play the "i didn't know" card, then no - no blame lies with her.

    however if she did, she's just as much to blame. yea, its his vows he didn't follow and his broken committments, but still, why would you want a married man? if you know he's married, you should be smart enough to know the shit will hit the fan someday and you're going right down with him. those type of women should look for men that they can actually keep to themselves.

    Answer by tnm786 at 3:25 PM on Dec. 27, 2010

  • Because its much easier for her to think that its another woman's fault that her man/husband cheated on her. Why would she think that her man wanted another woman besides her? She would rather keep her eyes closed instead of opened to the fact that she has a cheater in her life. She blames the other woman, thinking that if he sees how much of a fight she'll put up to keep him, he'll stop cheating and only want her.

    Answer by treasured_hope at 3:26 PM on Dec. 27, 2010

  • The ONLY one to blame when a husband cheats in the husband. Period. It's his marriage, his life - even if the other woman knows, it's him that's ruining a marriage.

    Answer by Scuba at 3:34 PM on Dec. 27, 2010

  • You cant blame her if she didnt know... but I have a hard time believing that someone would date very long and be THAT clueless.


    Answer by Anonymous at 3:35 PM on Dec. 27, 2010

  • It takes two and in my experience at some point the other woman does know. Lets say your bf is always unavaiable for major holidays, weekends, his vacations are away from you, he has kids, he is always making excuses. At some point you will snoop and find our wow he is married. Then he says its for the kids. Of course a lie. At some point she does know. When she finds out it is up to her to continue the relationship or end it. If she continues it then she is as guilty as he is for the affair. I hold both man and woman involved in adultery equally responsible.

    Answer by gemgem at 3:36 PM on Dec. 27, 2010

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