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Should I be concerned or was it just an accident?

I have a 3 1/2 y/o granddaughter- we dont get to see them too often. We found out during a visit last nite that she drowned their dog giving it a bath. I tried to not show I was a bit horrified- but I cant help but shake the feeling that this little girl may have some issues. What do you think? Is she too young to have such awful physchological issues?


Asked by mrsmom110 at 4:58 PM on Dec. 27, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • Why was she giving the dog a bath by herself for one? It could've been a genuine accident if she didn't have any watching her. Children often don't know the limits of themselves or other living creatures and come sometimes be too aggressive. If she was giving the dog a bath and wasn't being watched, then it most likely wasn't an intentional feat. She should be talked to about what happen and told honestly what she did wrong.

    However, if she was being watched then her parents should've taken control of the situation and stopped her.

    Either way I don't see how this could've happened if she were being watched. Secondly, if she wasn't being watched then what kind of parents are raising her? Who lets their 3 year old bathe a pet by themselves? I think all in all it was neglect from the parents to allow this to happen. I don't think it was an intentional feat by the child.

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 6:22 PM on Dec. 27, 2010

  • TThe first things that come to me are: How big is this 3 1/2 yr old? How big was the dog? Why was she bathing the dog unsupervised? Unless this was a tiny puppy I don't see it. A small child can drown in as much water as a dog. Sounds like there is a lot of issues here. Has this child been traumatized by abuse of any kind, witness to a horrific event..anything like that. You are right to be concerned. NOTHING in the scenario sounds good. Whether the child is psychotic or being neglected it needs to be addressed.

    Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 5:03 PM on Dec. 27, 2010

  • Lol mark me down. I don't care. It wasn't like I went inside, grabbed towels and soap, and gave the puppy an actual bath. I took the puppy and dunked it in the water. I didn't know that the puppy had to breathe.

    He was a good father, and if you're asking where my Mom was... She was in the hospital dying of cancer.

    Like I said, shit happens. We did the best we could, and I feel really shitty about accidentally drowning the puppy... but it was truly an accident.

    Answer by Razelda at 5:12 PM on Dec. 27, 2010

  • Where the heck were her parents?

    Answer by Misteh at 5:02 PM on Dec. 27, 2010

  • Ummm..... Wow, so autistic children automatically kill pets? Not true, just because one autistic child did something this tragic, please do not make that leap of assumption that if a child kills a pet, it's autistic or something.
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    The ONLY situation I know of with kids killing pets is with the autistic kid. I was relating an experience. That's the point of this forum - to relate experiences and help solve issues.

    Answer by Orionsgirl at 5:11 PM on Dec. 27, 2010

  • I do not think this is normal.

    Answer by Mom2Just1 at 5:03 PM on Dec. 27, 2010

  • No idea, I'm sorry, but why was a 3 1/2 year old bathing the dog?

    Answer by thatgirl70 at 5:03 PM on Dec. 27, 2010

  • It is said that future serial killers harm their pets. This is not normal nor could it have been an accident. This child needs help before she starts harming other animals and eventually other people.

    Answer by bcauseimthemom at 5:12 PM on Dec. 27, 2010

  • The puppy I bathed was only a few weeks old... From my memory I'd say 5-6 weeks. It was too little to fight =/ I wish it would have, but I just truly didn't understand.

    Answer by Razelda at 5:16 PM on Dec. 27, 2010

  • @ OP - I got your message. But to be honest I can't answer how long it took the puppy to die. It wasn't like I murdered it and had a clock watching the time. The puppy was just WAY too young, didn't struggle, etc. I put it in the bucket, and I remember it just went to the bottom of the bucket. I didn't understand it needed to breathe. I also didn't know how to swim, so I didn't understand the puppy going to the bottom was bad.

    I think I was probably washing it off, and I didn't lift it out of the bucket enough. It probably drowned as I was "bathing" it. I probably didn't give it enough oxygen.

    So I went inside, and I got my Dad... I tried to tell him the puppy was sleeping... I don't remember what happened after that. I wanted the puppy to wake up and play with me, but it wouldn't. It just laid there =/

    This was 21 years ago and I was quite young. That's all I can tell you.

    Answer by Razelda at 5:25 PM on Dec. 27, 2010