Going to try to make this short. My best friend (also DS' Godmother) and I have been friends for almost 10 yrs. In that time we have MANY fights where she stops talking to me. Later on she will randomly talk to me again and say 'let's not talk about, just move on.' Because of all the good times we have had, I do. She is almost always there for me when I need help, and when she needs something I am there too. We talk almost
everyday (when we are talking LOL) and she also met and married my husbands coworker. We both lived in FL, but now (due to husbands) live in NC (about 5 miles apart)!
I had a Christmas party that 'she forgot about' and also missed 5 of my calls that night, but called in the morning to apologize. Now, a few of our mutual friends (she is closer to them but I have been in touch with them over the 10 yrs as well) are coming up here for New Years. I just heard through the grape vine that she is having a New Years Eve party with many of the couples at our husbands work and our mutual friends from FL. BUT my husband and I were not invited, and it's been very secretive. I will say she has done a great job at keeping this from me. So... what do i do.
Not talk about it, and have a quiet night home with DH and DS?
Call her up and tell her I got a babysitter and invite her and her DH out for the evening?
Or straight up ask her why we weren't invited? (but then do i dare have the guts to show up if i ask in advance?)
I like the idea of calling her & telling her you have a babysitter & then asking her if she has plans for the evening because you'd like to do something with her. If she doesn't mention the party, you know she is avoiding inviting you...which is messed up.
This is a good way to see how good of a friend she really is. If she avoids telling you about the party, i would cut ties. It would be obvious to me that she only wants to be my friend when it is convenient for her & that is not a true friend at all.
Answer by samurai_chica at 6:51 PM on Dec. 27, 2010
Sounds to me like you don't have a very good friend... I would cut my losses and miss all of her calls from now on.
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I used to worried and make a fool form myself because I wanted to be beloved by everyone and please everyone. Time and experience taught me (thanks God) that time and feeling wasters exist. From that time I can separate my real friend from those who use me as they want. I have less real friends but more time to celebrate life and true relationships:P Only the first step is hard. But believe me it worth it:P
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