My daughter is five and her father and I have been sperated since she was 18 months. I have been with her step-father since she was 2.5. Recently she has had to deal with us moving 25 miles away from her father and the effects of the move. Not only is she very emotional and cranky but wanting to eat more. I am looking for any advice to help her cope. She also is only able to see him two nights a week.Answer Question
Answer by Lynnsae at 7:12 PM on Dec. 27, 2010
Answer by tootoobusy at 7:13 PM on Dec. 27, 2010
Answer by lillyblue111 at 7:25 PM on Dec. 27, 2010
Don't make a big deal about it. Young children handle things better if the parents are easy going and give names to feelings but don't dwell on things that can't be changed. Goodbyes with the father should be brief - a hug, kiss, and see you later. If she crys just let her watch daddy leave and wave and say later and then go on with life. I've taking care of my 2 year old grandson since he was an infant (while his mother works and his father goes to school) and we have been able to avoid separation issues. We learned it's better if his mother isn't involved in drop offs, she will try and cling to make herself feel better and it just makes it harder on him. Try and keep transition times as emotion free as possible.
Answer by Gailll at 7:26 PM on Dec. 27, 2010
I was divorced and my ex lived about an hour away. He had our two sons every other weekend, came most Wed. evenings and took them out for dinner, and came to their big events. Healthy kids are flexible and get used to the routine. It's easier now with cell phones, email, and Skype then is was even a decade ago. Wanting to eat more probably isn't related to her relationship with her father. Even if it is, don't let her get away with poor eating habits. You are the adult and you can make sure you have the right kinds of foods for her to eat. Parents often feel guilty for things like moving and then blame their child's problematic behavior on the wrong things.
Answer by Gailll at 7:36 PM on Dec. 27, 2010
Answer by kittymom at 1:54 AM on Dec. 30, 2010
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