I go to answer questions on here and I see so many moms come on and here and say "oh all teens are rude" "oh all boys that age are mean and disrespectful" "its normal for girls to act like that and talk back" etc etc it goes on and on........ I just don't get it.
Don't parents realize, that from practically day 1 you need to teach your kids good manners and respect? and Being 100 % consistent in punishment is key to raising well behaved well rounded adults??
There is a difference between punishment and abuse.
Punishment and consequences teaches them how to behave, but boundaries also make them feel safe. I think it is more abusive to not punish kids than to punish them. Kids NEED boundaries
If you have a 3 y.o. (insert any childhood age) you are not raising a 3 y.o. you are raising an adult!!
And it is up to you as the adult to teach your kids right from wrong and that means growing up yourself and giving them a great example.
Parenting is THE MOST IMPORTANT JOB IN THE WORLD.
Yes kids will test the boundaries. And you as a parent HAVE to be there to keep that boundary in place. Do boundaries change??...Yes they do, BUT the parent is the one who decides when, where and how those boundary lines change. Not the kids!!
Do not let your child hit you....tell them from an early age...stop!! that is not okay!! If they are naughty/disrespectful punish them, take something away that is of value to them !! even if it means the whole family loses out.
I guarantee the tougher and more consistent you are when they are younger the easier you will have it when they are older. If you cannot control your 3 ,4, 5, & 6 y.o. how in the hell will you be able to control them at 13,14,15 & 16.
If your kids are still living at home and you are supporting them, then they are NOT YOUR friends! They are your kids there is a line there. If you have to give birth in order to have friends that there is something seriously wrong.
Answer by layh41407 at 8:21 AM on Dec. 28, 2010
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