i am fed up with my husband refusing to either have sex with me long enough for me to have an orgasm or go down on me. he hasn't gone down on me since last YEAR and he always, always finishes first. therefore, i havent had a self-induced orgasm since last year. and before that he only went down on me twice the year before that. but me, i gave him head nearly every night in the week and we had sex after. if we got tired we'd do other things to get him to have his. and after that he'd be done. i have been left to do it myself for too long. so i haven't given him head in about two weeks. he finally asked last night why and i said cause you never do it for me. and he said well i dont like it. and i said its not like i LOVE giving you head, i only do it because it makes YOU feel good. im tired of give give give and getting nothing in return in the bedroom. but i dont want him to be deprived either and start looking elsewhere. i just feel like if i dont put my foot down about what i want it will never happen, and he'll keep being selfish. is this wrong or am i looking for trouble here? thanks for any answers/advice in advance.
Asked by Anonymous at 2:57 PM on Dec. 28, 2010 in Relationships
Answer by ohwrite at 3:05 PM on Dec. 28, 2010
Answer by tootoobusy at 3:00 PM on Dec. 28, 2010
I think you 2 definitely need to talk about this issue and you need to let him know that sex is a GIVE and TAKE-- not 1 person (aka you) doing all the giving and him enjoying all the benefits and giving nothing in return! Hopefully there can be some sort of compromise, or you can work something out-- like it is your turn 1st and once he makes you happy it is his turn to enjoy.....
Answer by MizLee at 3:07 PM on Dec. 28, 2010
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Answer by lstrickland at 3:12 PM on Dec. 28, 2010
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well it looks like its gonna be another bfn for me