Usually I am a fan of keeping my mouth shut, but I don't know about this one.
My sister's boyfriend of 4 years is a jerk. I just realized it this Christmas. He is rude to my dad and my husband and my brother. He was really snarky and mean to me this year. He just doesn't share our family values.
My mom doesn't see it. She is quite taken with him and has been putting the heat on him to marry my sister. They have been living together for 2 years and there has been no talk of an engagement. I think he is just a wrong fit in our family and he shouldn't be encouraged to marry my sister.
I think I should tell my mom to ease up and not push the marriage issue. I think a hands off approach will let my sister see that her boyfriend is NOT her forever mate. I worry if I tell my mom this she will get mad at me, but I really would feel unhappy for my sister if this was the guy she ended up with.
Answer by bcauseimthemom at 10:35 AM on Dec. 29, 2010
Answer by SpaceToast at 10:35 AM on Dec. 29, 2010
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Answer by bseastrand at 10:41 AM on Dec. 29, 2010
Permission and training.... thats two controlling words... regardless, I wouldn't say a word. It doesn't matter anyway, your mom is not going to convince him to marry her if he doesn't want to and your sister will not leave unless she is ready and wants to. I would say nothing and try to stay away from the conflict.
Answer by bjojola at 10:54 AM on Dec. 29, 2010
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Answer by Scuba at 11:05 AM on Dec. 29, 2010
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