I was trying to conceive with my boyfriend at the time. We had been friends for 7 years. I thought I could trust him. He took off with another girl, told me several different times he didn't want anything to do with me or this baby. I didn't talk to him for months. I attempted to contact him on Facebook but he blocked me. A mutual friend called his bluff and he decided out of no where to call me and ask to meet up. For the baby's sake and at the advice of my friends and family, I did. He said he was glad we talked and excited for the baby. The very next day he was back to horrible text messages and telling me his life would be perfect without me in it. I ignored him. Again, the same thing with texts last night.
He goes from saying he wants nothign to do with the baby, to once saying he wants to be there for the baby, to saying that he thinks we should talk to more, to saying that he wants nothing to do with supporting me and will only be around when the baby is there. THE ONLY REASON I have talked to him the few times I have is to ensure he cannot use me as an excuse for not being there for his child. He is also denying paternity which is TOTALLY absurd.
My question: He won't be there when the baby is born. His name will not be on the certificate. And once the entire proccess of establishing paternity is done, the baby will be around a year old. He thinks once paternity is established, he will automatically be granted rights. As far as I know, this is totally, 100% not true. I also plan on drug testing him. Can anyone offer me advice on how all of this works? I have a friend who's boyfriend had to deal with all this and he isn't going to be granted custody for years, if at all. But that is the only person or case I know of. Can anyone tell me (recently because laws change) their own experiences or their knowledge on the matter.
I am terrified and I just cannot emotional handel anymore contact with him. Thanks.
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