My mother and I hsave not had a good relationship my whole life. He is very judgmental and sometimes just mean and disrespectful. She doesn't approve of how me and my DH discipline our my stepson. She thinks we are to strict. But she went to far. My DH and I had a fight and when he dropped off the kids she told him that I was verbally abusive to my step son. Although what my DH did was is not excused I can say he was very vulnerable and my mom knew that. She staged an intervention. So I found out that since my DH and I are more strict on discipline, such as time outs that can last most of the day or writing down what was wrong on paper. I know she is not fond of me but really attacking me and getting in my business. I know I am a good mother and I know my DH and I can work on our discipline skills. I don't know what to do. I am afraid she will try to do something even worse. I could go on forever about her behavior but I don't know how to handle it now.Answer Question
Well if you dont like what she is saying just tell her you dont. You dont have to listen to what she has to say. On the other hand maybe you should listen. Time outs lasting the whole day are not the way most pediatricians and psychologists suggest doing them. How old is he? Does he live with you? Without knowing more it is hard for me to say if she crossed the line or not.
Answer by gemgem at 9:10 AM on Dec. 30, 2010
It seems to me that your mom feels your discipline skills might be damaging than doing any good, you need more than one person to stage an intervention so there is more than one member of your family who agrees with her. Interventions are done for good not bad, maybe you should re look at your techniques........
Answer by older at 9:11 AM on Dec. 30, 2010
maybe you need to sit down and tell her or have it out. I had to do this with my mom after her disagreeing caused so much pain and anger. I would sit down talk it out if an agreement cannot be reached maybe you have to say its over until she can agree to disagree.
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