My 6 year old is telling me he wishes his brother would die soon so he can have one of his toys. I asked him if he really understands what he is saying, and if he understands death, and he says yes, and he doesnt care if we bury his brother in the ground and never see him again. He wants him to die. We have lost 3 pets in the last 2 years, and I am pretty sure he understands what happens. We have discussed it fully, and he is a very bright kid. I am NOT at all happy at what he is saying.... should I be freaked out or just blow it off?
He is NOT physically abusive to his brother.. though someimes he may hit him wih a toy if his litel brother is trying to get it from him.. He has a really big problem sharing anything, but thinks he can play wih whatever he wants, despie he many conversations we have had and the rules we have set.....Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 6:56 PM on Dec. 30, 2010 in School-Age Kids (5-8)
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Answer by ohwrite at 7:28 PM on Dec. 30, 2010
A six year old does not understand death even if they have had pets who have died. At six he can say he does but developmentally it is not really quite solidified. If this were my child I would take a calm approach. Not to dismiss completely but to also to not make this a HUGE thing so that your son is left with some feelings of guilt and shame. Many children are jealous of siblings and crave the attention and all the material things for themselves. Particularly now since he now knows he has some shock value after you questioned him in more detail. This isn't about wishing his brother is dead it is more likely about craving your complete and total attention. He is not able to say: "Mom I really need just you and only you. I really need security of knowing my things are mine and that you track and acknowledge my needs." Instead he says: "I wish my brother was dead so I can have all his things."
Answer by frogdawg at 9:44 PM on Dec. 30, 2010