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When you fight, Do you threaten Divorce??

In all of our almost 12 yrs of marriage, I have done that once. And he called his employee crisis line and got us into marriage counselling. Basically it was someone that mediated our arguement, I highly recommend it!! Anyhow, My sister cries and says she wants a divorce Everytime they fight. It is silly cause he doesn't believe her anymore....... So, Do you yell, " I want a Divorce" during your arguements?

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eluc

Asked by eluc at 6:58 PM on Dec. 30, 2010 in Relationships

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  • No, but I do say I want him to go away. I do need my space.
    tootoobusy

    Answer by tootoobusy at 6:59 PM on Dec. 30, 2010

  • No, I don't think that is a threat that needs made. I would never say it unless I meant it.
    Bubbie0809

    Answer by Bubbie0809 at 7:01 PM on Dec. 30, 2010

  • nope
    nicjon

    Answer by nicjon at 7:03 PM on Dec. 30, 2010

  • i would never just say it I would just leave and do it.
    pinkdragon36

    Answer by pinkdragon36 at 7:04 PM on Dec. 30, 2010

  • Nope..

    Not during our 25 years of marriage has that happened. When he was drinking, when he had a one night stand, when I was emotionally abusive.. I could go on and on.. lots of things can happen over the span of 25 years (good & bad..lol) ................... Neither one of us ever threatened divorce just because we were angry and fighting. We've never threatened. Even when I made him move out, I didn't make threats or say things that I didn't mean or wasn't willing to back up.
    pixie_trix

    Answer by pixie_trix at 7:04 PM on Dec. 30, 2010

  • never
    girllovescamo

    Answer by girllovescamo at 7:10 PM on Dec. 30, 2010

  • we've been married almost 2 years, and i have said it once. it was when i found out he cheated emotionally and i meant it when i said it. but we worked it out and i have never said it again.
    tnm786

    Answer by tnm786 at 7:12 PM on Dec. 30, 2010

  • We have spoken about it but no I don't yell I want a divorce. I do let him know that if I find out he has crossed a boundary I will file for divorce.
    Darla47

    Answer by Darla47 at 7:12 PM on Dec. 30, 2010

  • never
    rebeccadac

    Answer by rebeccadac at 7:15 PM on Dec. 30, 2010

  • In the begining of our marriage we fought a lot, and were both genuinly unhappy. I did say it multiple times, but then it finally hit me that I needed to decide whether we were going to make it work or not. I decided I would stop allowing the idea of divorce into my head let alone say it, and now years later we are genuinly happily married. Its a very damaging thing to say in a marriage.
    -LovingMamma-

    Answer by -LovingMamma- at 7:19 PM on Dec. 30, 2010

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