I have a beautiful 4 year old little girl. Her father walked out on me when I was 3 months pregnant saying that I should get an abortion because he is not helping with the baby. He came to the hospital with his mom, barged into my room looked at her and said her is too UGLY to be his. His mom said that if she is his, why didn't I call him to be in the delivery room. I told her because I didn't want him there, he wasn't there for the pregnancy, why should he be there for the delivery. Anyway, they left and haven't been heard from since. Until a couple of days ago, I was served papers saying that he was going for joint custody. He has never asked to see her, nor has he paid a dime for her. He called me the day I was served (even though he says he doesn't know how to get ahold of me and THAT is why he hasn't seen my dd in 4 years, I also live 1/2 a mile from his mom) to try to rub it in that he would get visitation and mainly just try to upset me. I don't mind too much as I know he won't come to most the visits as his is in the marines, lives 6 hours from us and will be moving to Japan in about 5 months. I found out the reason he is doing all of this is because his mom is dying (she has about a year) and she wants to see a grandchild before she dies (I guess my baby isn't too ugly now). Anyway I let him know that we will talk about it in court but just so he knows, he will be paying back child support for the past 4 years. I have already retained a lawyer who figured out it will be about $26000. Well all the sudden his lawyer calls me and tries to get me to feel bad saying things like "he just wants to be a good father but it is gonna be realy hard for him to pay all that off" I said "yeah, well it was hard for me to support a child on my own for 4 years but I managed, so will he" I know they won't make him pay it all of at once because, of course, he doesn't have that much money just lying around buy my layer said that he will be ordered to pay $500 a month for child support plus a min. of one percent of the back child support which comes to $260. This means he will be handing over almost 1/3 of his paycheck, I feel like that is what he gets for not paying it in the first place. I should say that he lives and eats in the barraks, so the only bill he pays is his car insurance, cell phone bill, gas, and he pays for going out and clothes (he bought his car with his enlistment bonus) So I guess it just means he will have to cut down on his partying. I think I am totally right, but is there anyone who thinks I am wrong in any of this?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 10:48 PM on Dec. 30, 2010 in General Parenting
Supporting HIS child is part of being a parent... you are 100% correct to go for back child support... it's the LEAST he can do for her!!! If he didn't want a child then he should have kept it in his pants!!
Answer by Crafty26 at 10:53 PM on Dec. 30, 2010
Good for you! I think you are doing the right thing.
Answer by JeremysMom at 10:56 PM on Dec. 30, 2010
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Answer by aheuszel at 11:54 PM on Dec. 30, 2010