One of my best girl friends has been really stressing me out and I think I have about had it with her! When ever she calls she needs something, be it for DH and I to watch her DD who is going to be three next month, she needs help/advice with her boyfriend, help/advice with her family, etc. She constantly bitches about my DH and our family choices, for ex: DH went to the Bears vs. Pats game last month while we had his daughter. We had her for 4 nights and he was gone for 1 of the 4 to go to the game. The game was a Christmas present from his brother and they are die hard Pats fans, DH and I discussed it and decided he would go and I would watch my stepdaughter while he was away. BF decided that was the WORST decision in the world because she is HIS child NOT mine and HE should be the one responsible for caring for her while she is at our house. She continued on to say that my stepdaughter was not my responsibility and he was being controlling and manipulative by making me watch his child while he went away and he should be more responsible and stay home and watch her himself. I explained that she is just as much my daughter as she is his and I wanted him to go to the game and I wanted to spend the time bonding with my stepdaughter. We ended up agreeing to disagree....Well last night (New Years Eve) she sent her daughter to the child's daycare teacher's house for the night so she could go out drinking *this was not the first time she has done this* HOW IS THAT OKAY WHEN MY STEPDAUGHTER STAYING IN MY CARE IS THE WORST THING EVER?!?!?!? Also, I am getting tired of her calling and apologizing for not being around more and asking if we can get together that night...the night rolls around and hmm guess what?! SHE IS FUCKING BUSY BECAUSE SHE MADE OTHER PLANS! So there I am, wasted my entire evening waiting on her just to find out she ditched. She constantly drags me down, we are not rich by any means and so she will say things like "you need to blah blah blah because you guys don't have the money to blah" or "sorry I didn't call you guys to come out to eat with us after all, I knew you guys don't have the money to go out so I didn't want to upset you" whenever she has any life problems, her baby's daddy is doing something horrible, her mom or dad is annoying the shit out of her, she needs help watching her daughter, etc she will call and talk my ear off BUT anytime I have had a problems she has wanted nothing to do with it, not even to listen!!!! This is only a fraction of the stress I have been putting up with for the last couple months! I am so fucking tempted to tell her I don't want to hear it the next time she calls!!!!!
Does anyone else have a friend like this!?!?!?! How do you deal with it?! I swear she adds more stress in my marriage than money and in-laws combine!
Asked by Anonymous at 8:16 PM on Jan. 1, 2011 in Relationships
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