Telling an autistic child G'ma is in heaven is the same as saying she is at the store. They will think heaven is a place where you can visit and come back home.
Autistic kids are very VERY literal.
Is she high functioning? does she understand the concept of death, (ie: bugs, works, goldfish, dead animals on the side of the road)? You need to be honest with her. Do you have any social stories you can use? Is it possible to enlist the help of her school ? PT/OT?, Yes it is hard to tell them but she needs to hear the real truth that G'ma died. and then answer any questions she may have........
at 11:17 AM on Jan. 2, 2011