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How do I know for sure if it's cheating?

Me and hubby having problems since November. I found calls on his bill. I asked and he said it's his dad's girlfriend's friend who owed him money for something. He won't admit to the obsessiveness of the calls though. How do you "really" know the truth? He's not going to admit it. Do ppl really split up over an assumption?

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Asked by Anonymous at 4:57 PM on Jan. 2, 2011 in Relationships

Answers (11)
  • Call the number for yourself and see who it is

    Answer by mommy_of_two388 at 5:00 PM on Jan. 2, 2011

  • Call up the phone number and ask her:) The easiest way under the sun:P Tell her you are wondering that you found this number on your phone bills of your common phone with your husband and you are not sure who she she is:) This is the best first movement. You can build up your strategy whatever she says:)


    Answer by adriennfaklya at 5:01 PM on Jan. 2, 2011

  • Agree with Mommy of two! Give it a call and see whats up

    Answer by rebeccadac at 5:01 PM on Jan. 2, 2011

  • Besides the calls, is there more? Your instincts must be telling your something. Too much time away from home? Any other changes in his behavior? Go w/ your gut. Good luck.

    Answer by mrsmom110 at 5:03 PM on Jan. 2, 2011

  • Shes going to lie! Would you admit to dating a married man? Doubt she will talk.

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 5:03 PM on Jan. 2, 2011

  • sometimes the other woman dont know that the man is married so maybe when you tell her he is she will admit to it! its worth a try ..i would call her!! & even is she wouldnt then you can atleast see if its really his dads girlfriends friend!

    Answer by mommy2be0611 at 5:06 PM on Jan. 2, 2011

  • good luck i hope hes everything goes good for you :)

    Answer by mommy2be0611 at 5:07 PM on Jan. 2, 2011

  • Don't even tell her you found the number. Just call it & say "I'm soorry, whom may i be speaking to...i think i may have dialed the wrong number" After she says her name ask "Oh are you (insert dad's girfriends name) friend? Oh OK, i thought i was calling someone sorry"


    Answer by samurai_chica at 5:36 PM on Jan. 2, 2011

  • Before you call her check his computer, talk to his dad and his girlfriend, just say you are wondering when this person is going to complete her repayment of the loan. Ask for her name and phone number so you can get in touch to set a payment plan. If they are hesitant to help you or they don't know what you are talking about then you have a basis for suspision. Find out everything you can first so you have some real ammunition before you pick a battle.

    Answer by sdj1953 at 6:02 PM on Jan. 2, 2011

  • I go with what adj1953 said.

    Answer by kim0167 at 7:21 PM on Jan. 2, 2011

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