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how can i get my 3 year to pick up his toys?

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Asked by brittyshea at 6:11 PM on Jan. 2, 2011 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • Make a game from it. We usually sing a song and pick the toys up and put it in the box. Sometimes we play who is the fastest or who can put more toys in the box in a certain time. The room is clean in a second. "Tidy-up time, tidy-up time, toys away, toys away:)"


    Answer by adriennfaklya at 6:16 PM on Jan. 2, 2011

  • Make it into a game - set a timer for 5 minutes & you both run around grabbing toys to put in the toy bin, letting him get most of them, naturally. Also, having toy storage options that are kid-friendly will help, too. If the system is too complicated or just too cumbersome for him to use, then he'll be overwhelmed and won't do anything. You also need to pick up his toys with him when you are done playing together to show him that's what you do when you are done playing (lead by example). If you want him to do it all himself, then you're going to need to supervise him & give him step-by-step instructions until he get the hang of it himself.

    Answer by mom2aspclboy at 6:16 PM on Jan. 2, 2011

  • have u tried the clean up clean up song from barney? or if that didnt work i would clean up their toys in front of them by putting toys in a trash bag and putting them in the trash..(putting them in basement for two weeks).they cried as i threw the toys awayso i said next time youll pick them up or they all go in the trash

    Answer by stefaugie at 6:20 PM on Jan. 2, 2011

  • make sure you break it down into manageable chunks. Telling a 3 yr old to "clean up the room" isn't going to work as well as asking him/her to "pick up the cars", then "pick up the puzzle", etc.

    Answer by momofryan07 at 6:30 PM on Jan. 2, 2011

  • I agree with the other gals.. also if you praise a lot while it's happening that helps.. Also ask questions like "I know you are such a smart boy, where does this go?"
    Now if you have more than one kid helping clean up, I use this "trick" with my kids. It's a game and whomever picks up the last toy wins a prize! They aren't smart enough to realize they can just slack until the toys are almost done then jump in. LOL Anyway, it's really fast and great for when you have someone on their way over. They tend to be really thorough too and look under chairs and couches. Reward can be anything from picking a movie to watch to first to be served lunch or some sort of special treat.

    Answer by Jambo4 at 6:31 PM on Jan. 2, 2011

  • TEACH HIM how to pick them up and put them away.

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:09 PM on Jan. 2, 2011

  • Clean up song !!! We sing the clean up song from Yo Gabba Gabba most days it works some days I just have to pick them up or leave them til she gets tired of them on the floor!!

    Answer by baby1love at 10:57 PM on Jan. 2, 2011

  • You can also adapt the situation where if you want a toy, you have to put the one you were playing with away. Have them on a shelf where they can't reach it, until they get the hang of it. Then put it where they can. It take two weeks to make a habit. Well, maybe 4 with a boy! LOL Another thing you can do is create a chart. if they get dress, put their PJ's away, brush their teeth, etc. using stars. when they've done one item they get to put a star on it. at the end of the week they get the chose of doing something or having an hour with mommy play time, walking to a park, etc... have fun!


    Answer by WalknWithGod at 2:43 AM on Jan. 3, 2011

  • "TEACH HIM how to pick them up and put them away. "

    I agree with the others who have said "Make it a game".

    Answer by makelineerror at 10:49 AM on Jan. 3, 2011

  • You can group like toys together and limit him to one group at a time. Tell him he has to pick up that group to get another one out. Also, if he pick up you can let him put a star on a behavior chart, or you can start a skittle bucket. You give hime one skittle for good behavior. It sounds like alot of junkfood, and at first he could get 15-20 in a day, but as the good behaviors become habit, you won't have to use it hardly at all.

    Answer by Ms.Wendy83 at 4:44 PM on Jan. 9, 2011

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