Hi.I have been married for almost 8yrs now and we have two boys,3ys and 5yrs old.I have been a SAHM for 5yrs now.After my first pregnancy,my husband hardly wants to have sex with me,he also has been very cold to me and it got worse after we had our second child together. He was always working 7days aweek and 12 to 13 hrs or more a day,I understand he was very tired then but now he has an easier job with better hours and he still hardly ever wants to be with me,he also is still very cold to me,never likes PDA. Whenever he has time off,he is always taking off without us to"run" an errand,it may take 1hr to 4hrs,sometimes he never tells me where he is going,and once he is at the door-I ask him and he snaps at me like do you always need to know where I am going,he thinks I am a paranoid jealous person but I want is a husband who shows he cares afor me and loves me.Yes,I had gained alot of weight w/my second child and I am currently just now finally starting to the weight.Yes,we have money problems,there is always some thing that goes wrong whenever we actually have any extra cash like our car windshield just broke(has a huge crack in it) and now it is going to cost us $400 dollars to fix it.we never had any help from our family or friends to watch our boys so we can have a night together.i always feel like I am the one making compromises in our relationship but he is very good with our boys and loved them very much but he is awfull to me like thinks I ask for too much when all I ask for is the basic necessities like hair conditioner,etc. I even need a winter jacket but he feels that I can use his to walk and that I do not need one.Occasionally,he can be nice to me but it never lasts for long.he is always talking about how he dated this one or how is ex-girlfriend wants him back but I NEVER talk about my past relationships to him,because I know it is disrespectful.I have no place to go,my family is self-centered and so is his.I do want to make our marriage work for our children but i am coming to the point where I have had enough.Any suggestions? He does not drink,I do not drink but he does smoke pot every day but he does hide it from the kids like goes outside to do it.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 9:00 PM on Jan. 2, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by worriedmommy600 at 9:01 PM on Jan. 2, 2011
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Answer by Anna92464 at 9:40 PM on Jan. 2, 2011
Whether he Loves you or not- Don't you think you & your kids deserve someone that shows you he loves you & treats you with respect? i do............... wishing you lots of luck!
Answer by daisyb at 11:41 PM on Jan. 2, 2011
Answer by tnmomofive at 9:04 AM on Jan. 3, 2011
Good Luck. I hope it all works out. I would plan a date night. I know you said you don't ever get a babysitter well put the boys and bed and make a romantic dinner, have a glass of wine, watch a new movie and see where that leads. You guys need aloe time with out your kids! EVERY relationship needs that.
Answer by kiansmom0423 at 2:29 PM on Jan. 3, 2011
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