My 3 yr. old niece has picked up a nasty habit of spitting at people when she gets upset. She has pretty much been spitting at my 4yr. old for the past 2 months. She spits at her face clothes or wherever it lands. Her parents tell her to stop but she does it again. How should I handle this? I really don't like telling people how to parent. My daughter gets very upset when she gets spit on, should I tell my daughter to defend herself somehow?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 2:34 AM on Jan. 3, 2011 in Preschoolers (3-4)
Answer by dancer at 3:14 AM on Jan. 3, 2011
Answer by KARRIEMARIE at 5:14 AM on Jan. 3, 2011
Answer by Skipo510 at 5:41 AM on Jan. 3, 2011
No. You should sit down with your niece's parents and talk to them. Tell them you are so fed up with her spitting your child. And if they don1t do anything about it, than you are not too keen having that girl around your one. I would sit down with the niece and tell her, only good girls can stay in your house and there are different rules when she is with you and when she is in her parents. Tell her, in your house the rule is: there is no splitting. Because it is not nice, it hurts other people feeling and other people don't want to play with cheeky children. Tell her, if she keeps spitting you don't feel like you could look after her. Tell her, if she wants to spend time with you and your daughter she has to stop spitting. If she spits, take her home. She will learn that if she wants to be in your house than she has to follow your rules.
Answer by adriennfaklya at 9:08 AM on Jan. 3, 2011
Don't tell to your child to defend herself because she will start to spit as well. And she will think it is good to do anything when she wants to defend herself. It will cause a lot of problem later. You can solve this problem if you set your rules in your house. If she wants to spend time in your house than she has to follow those rules. If she can't than take her home. Don't make your child miserable if someone else's child misbehave in your house. They don't have to be there. They are the guests.
Answer by adriennfaklya at 9:13 AM on Jan. 3, 2011
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Answer by CafeMochaMom1 at 4:37 PM on Jan. 3, 2011