My 2 children are in elementary school. I'm a single mom, and work in senior management. I KNOW I have to work late the first week of every month, and sometimes other days thrown in. I hired a part-time nanny (family acquaintance) to take care of my kids when I have to work later than after-school care closes. I told her I would guarantee her $250 per month, sort of as a "retainer" to make sure she is available when I need her. I know my monthly schedule a year in advance and can tell her the exact days/dates that I will need her in the evening during my busy weeks. I also call on her other times I need a sitter, but I can never use her for night-time babysitting because she has a 2 year old that goes to bed at 8:00.
Anyway, I had her work for me over Christmas break. I told her I would pay her $100 to watch my 2 girls (ages 7 & 9) for 2 days while I worked. One of those days, I ended up staying home so she only watched them 1 day. I paid her $50. She asked why I only paid her $50 when I said I would pay $100. I patiently explained $100 was for 2 days, so $50 was for the 1 day. She got all uppity with me and said we needed to work out a payment plan because that came out to only $5 an hour for that day, etc. and she can't live on that. I can empathize with her. But, I have helped this girl with references, wrote a letter helping her get her own apartment in subsidized housing (her rent is only $50 per month), given her things to get set up in her apartment, etc. So I was really put off when she complained about what I paid. I already "guarantee" her $250 per month and anything else (like the $50) is gravy on top of that.
I really don't know what to do because I need her, and I know her and her family and I trust her with my kids. But I couldn't believe the balls she had to complain about me paying her $50 to watch my kids for 1 day! My kids are in 2nd & 4th grade....not infants. I feel as if she thinks she's found a gravy train, and is trying to milk it for all she can. And that pisses me off.
Any suggestions on how to handle this situation?
Well, if you are NOT specific about how you are paying her then the misunderstanding is your fault. If you trust her with your children then you need to figure out a payment plan in advance and put it in writing. A good reliable sitter is not easy to come by. All you have done for her in the past has nothing to do with you employing her now. Business is business. You do things for people to be nice, not to be paid back in the future because it never happens that way & bad feelings will arise. That's my opinion. Apologize for the misunderstanding & make a payment plan.
Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 10:32 AM on Jan. 3, 2011
Pay her an hourly rate. When she works she gets the money when she doesn't, than write a contract and tell her how many free days does she have, etc. I don't know how it goes in your state but in England there are strict rules what should it be in a nanny contract. If you have one than no misunderstanding. Stop thinking about her like she wants to get all of your money. You told her you will pay 100 USD and you weren't clear for how much work. You are the employer you have to take care of these stuff. So write a contract, agree with her for an hourly pay. This is the best thing it can work out. And be really clear every time you ask something or you promise to pay extra money. And pay what you tell you will. Being an employer is not too easy but you have to learn how to do it if you want to employ anyone. Your choice:)
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