My son will be four at the end of this month. For almost two years now, I have been becoming sadder and sadder bc it appearent that he could care less if I were around or not. I literally do everything for him. Not spoliing him everything, just I work only to put him in a nice preschool. Yes I know that doesnt matter to him. I make life so FUN for him. Activies that he loves. All that jazz. My dilemma- my son cannot stand for me to hug on him or ever come crawl in my lap when we're watching movies. I made him a bowl of peppermint ice cream to watch Christmas movies, he crawls in Daddy's lap. He cries out for Daddy when he's hurt or sick even if he's at work. What do I do? I know he doesnt realise all these things, but Im becoming SUPEr depressed feeling like chopped liver to my own kid. Hes sometimes downright mean about not wanting me. Id never walk away from my motherly duty, I love him so much. I just dont know what to do to ge thim to be nice and like me.
Asked by Anonymous at 1:35 PM on Jan. 3, 2011 in General Parenting
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Seek out a certified play therapist. They can help you and help your child develop a stronger relationship through therapeutic play. Make sure the play therapist will teach you special play techniques at home that will allow you develop the skills in real time it takes to foster more closeness. It is not about your son. It is about your feelings and responses to what you perceive as rejection. You are not doing anything extraordinary for your child - you are doing what every parent who loves their child does. But with some therapeutic counseling you may be able to have a different perspective on your thoughts and feelings about who your child prefers or appears to prefer.
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