My 19 y/o son is supposed to start the next Sememster of College on Mon 1/10. He has yet to check his grades from last semester, get w/ his scholarship guidance person or sign up for classes. He's always been a procrastinator, but this is ridiculous. He's been on my last nerve lately & I told him if he's blowing off school, he needs to apply for 3-5 jobs & pay 1st months rent by Friday. We're not supporting a deadbeat. (We already told him he could live here rent-free as long as he's in school.) Was this appropriate? Or what would you have done differently? (*No bashing plz- it's been a rough year!)
Answer by tntmom1027 at 8:49 PM on Jan. 3, 2011
Answer by ashisamom at 7:54 PM on Jan. 3, 2011
Answer by ladybug0614 at 7:53 PM on Jan. 3, 2011
you did fine. You are making him accountable for his choices. He is 19 and you are being good parents by supporting him as long as he is in college but he needs to do his part. Parents now seem to coddle their kids to the point that the kids take advantage of the parents and the reality is that it is an injustice to the children. We as parents are to raise healthy, happy, PRODUCTIVE people to go out in to society. Good for you, stick to your guns.
Answer by sue118 at 8:14 PM on Jan. 3, 2011
Answer by momofalltrades at 8:40 PM on Jan. 3, 2011
Answer by twinsplus2more at 9:14 AM on Jan. 4, 2011
If he is not going back he has known it for almost a month and has been too chicken to say anything. Time for him to fish or cut bait.
Ignore the person who said how would you feel if your landlord... because if you have a landlord you know you have to pay rent. Geez what a line of guilt laden bull! And the landlord doesn't give a hoot how you feel, he only wants the mortgage and taxes paid by the person who is getting the benefit of the property!
You might also want to explain that "as long as you are in school" means full time working towards a real major and done in 4 years. Not forever and forever while dabbling in a number of areas of study that would provide no career procepts so he can find himself.
Answer by LoveMyDog at 9:32 AM on Jan. 4, 2011
Answer by tasches at 6:40 PM on Jan. 4, 2011
Answer by zboys at 9:17 PM on Jan. 4, 2011
Answer by mmmegan38 at 12:27 PM on Jan. 5, 2011