My dd is 4 years old. My ex didn't get into her life till she was 2. At that point he got visiation with her for about 9 months (he saw her 2 times a week for a total of about 11 hours, though he brought her home early and picked her up late so it was really 8 at the most). Anyway, then he went into the military and in that about year and a half since, he has only seen her a couple times, even though one time he came back to our state when he was on leave and didn't even bother to see her (I didn't even know he was here). Now he will be moving within 300 miles of us and wants to get her every other weekend. He was never wanted her over night and she has never been without me overnight. The thing is, it won't be very regular and within a few months he will be gone again. I think it is good for her to spend time with him but I don't really think it is fair that she adjust to sleeping at his house when by the time she gets used to it, he will be gone again. See, I was gonna ask for a readjusment period where he only sees her every other sat, to get her used to him. I was gonna ask for maybe 3 months but he said that there is a good chance that by then, he might be gone again. I just don't want her jerked around, she hardly knows him (his choice, he calls maybe once a month and talks to her for maybe a min or two).
Asked by Anonymous at 8:50 PM on Jan. 3, 2011 in General Parenting
Answer by MaryMW at 9:01 PM on Jan. 3, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 9:04 PM on Jan. 3, 2011