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my oldest chil is having behaviorissues resulting from his dead~beat father disapperaing again. how do i deal with this?

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Asked by Anonymous at 9:47 PM on Jan. 3, 2011 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • Keep the dead beat father away from her/him

    Answer by mommy_of_two388 at 9:47 PM on Jan. 3, 2011

  • and talk to the people in church and at the elementar school that he will be going to.

    Answer by chefjen at 9:49 PM on Jan. 3, 2011

  • I am the kid of a dad like that. He would come in our lives long enough to give us hope than leave again not coming back until we where finally over the abandonment issues. It is a tough road for any kid. If you can keep him away. The pain of being left like trash is hard enough. To have that wound opened over and over again is horrible. The issues I have to this day over it are just mind boggling. My siblings got it even worse than I did probably because they where younger so it was harder on them. Get him a good counselor or therapist and if you can have the fathers rights taken away so he can not keep doing this.


    Answer by Anonymous at 9:55 PM on Jan. 3, 2011

  • Patience is key...

    Make sure you have a positive strong male "father" figure in his life.... Grandpa, Uncle, cousin.... someone who is dependable and will not be leaving the family/your life any time soon.

    Have that guy come over often and spend time with your son. Play ball, watch TV, just anything where he gets that personal attention and time with the male to feel connected and not so abandoned...
    Yes keep the DBD away. File court papers immediately, protect your son from getting hurt more.

    Try not to get mad when he acts out, discipline when necessary but try to not let him get that negative attention he wants. You need to put extra focus and attention on him. Put away all pics of his dad u may have around, and if theres a particular thing/person/plave he really loves, then visit there/them/it often. Reward him for the good things he does, even small...
    Good luck! Stay strong.

    Answer by sassy_brizzy at 9:56 PM on Jan. 3, 2011

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