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what do i do??

so hubby cheated. (online cheating) not that thats any better than physically cheating..well we talked about it n im trying to move passed it, i want us just to be happy n move on it our lives..he said sorry n he'll never do it again n i kind of believe him..but i keep having dreams that hes cheating again.. what can i do about that?? n what does it mean?

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Asked by Anonymous at 10:44 AM on Jan. 5, 2011 in Relationships

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  • Dreams are usually just the way your imagination takes you when you are sleeping. You are probably dreaming about him cheating because he has and you don't fully believe that he won't do it again.

    Answer by Proud_Mommy05 at 10:50 AM on Jan. 5, 2011

  • whether emotional or physical its cheating. they both hurt. some say once a cheater always a cheater. you have to go with what your heart is telling yhou. my husband cheated twice. i forgave but i never have forgotten. everytime he goes out or goes on the computer i think he is cheating. sometimes the signs are there too. its always in my head. we have an awful marriage now and will probably be heading for divorce. and its all about trust. if you think you can learn to trust him fully again then good!
    thoughts are with you! gl

    Answer by JOR_HAIL at 10:50 AM on Jan. 5, 2011

  • It means that both your conscious and subconscious mind don't trust him. Your mind is making you run through it over and over to try to work out how to deal with it if it happens again or how you maybe should have handled it last time.

    Don't worry, though the dreams will stop when/if you really start to trust him again. It's not something that can be forced. It will come with time. What he has to understand is that he needs to be patient with you about this.

    It happened to me too.

    Answer by meandrphoto at 10:50 AM on Jan. 5, 2011

  • Keep talking. Some marriages don't consider what he is doing (cybersex) cheating. But if you feel betrayed, then you are betrayed, and that's a drain on your marriage. Explain that to him. Talk about what you both need and then find ways to fulfill each other, emotionally and sexually. Maybe make yourself available to him in cyberspace? :-)

    Answer by CoolChick1959 at 12:59 PM on Jan. 5, 2011

  • Online cheating, like passing notes in class? Who cares, you are the love of his life and the other crap is just that "crap."

    Answer by sexyfancyface at 2:41 PM on Jan. 5, 2011

  • It means that you havent forgiven him.

    Answer by LiLJeni at 4:59 PM on Jan. 5, 2011

  • of course its gonna be hard to move on but i truely beleive if you cant put it behind you and move on then it is going to affect your relationship and not for the better. maybe you should try couple counseling cause talking about things always helps... goodluck.

    Answer by cassiemomof4 at 10:17 PM on Jan. 5, 2011

  • it is hard to trust again when you have been cheated on no matter how they did it. maybe counseling would help if he is willing to go

    Answer by Christmaslver68 at 11:53 AM on Apr. 28, 2011

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