I have a friend with a 6 week old baby who could be going through some PPD symptoms or just simply having a hard time with lack of sleep with an infant. I am trying to be there for her as much as I can - I went and visited her on my lunch yesterday and she was all tears and so upset and so tired... my mom was the biggest help to my when my son was born and colic 14 hours a day - She knows my mom and my mom heartfully offered for her to go to her house and watch the baby so she could at least get some solid sleep - I called her and told her this last night and said I am just throwing it out there as an option etc..she wont' return my call today - so either she IS resting but I don't know if she got upset by the offer...
It could be any of the possibilities presented above. Really, it could be so many things, but nothing you did was out of line at all. I know your heart is in the right place, but she just may not be ready to accept any help (some of us are stubborn like that sometimes). If she's not also really close to your mom, she might not be able to relax handing her baby over to your mom and she doesn't know how to say that without hurting your feelings. Maybe try stopping by again and asking her if she wants to take a nap or a shower while you are there (she might feel more comfortable with you), or maybe leave your son with your mom and take her some dinner one night. I know outside my mom coming to help, people bringing us dinner was the thing I appreciated more than anything else.
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Is she a first time mommy? She may be feeling guilt for not being able to be supermom. First time mommies have a hard transition. I would not be offended if I were you. You are a good friend. She knows you care. She is emotionally and physically drained.
Answer by zebbiebug at 11:00 AM on Jan. 6, 2011