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I just found out that my husband is calling his ex!!!! We have only been married since Oct 16,2010... I dont trust him now!!! he's acting as if its no big deal!!! Has anyone been faced with this???? and if so how did u handle it???

I just found out that my husband is calling his ex!!!! We have only been married since Oct 16,2010... I dont trust him now!!! he's acting as if its no big deal!!! Has anyone been faced with this???? and if so how did u handle it???

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Mrsdavis33

Asked by Mrsdavis33 at 11:07 AM on Jan. 6, 2011 in Relationships

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  • well, why is he calling her? kids? shared bills?
    i'd be curious, and cautious, but i'd have a sit-down with him...and why was he not telling you he called her? does he keep it from you, thinking you'd be upset--even if its a necessary call?
    dullscissors

    Answer by dullscissors at 11:09 AM on Jan. 6, 2011

  • Does he have children with her?
    Chloesmom1126

    Answer by Chloesmom1126 at 11:09 AM on Jan. 6, 2011

  • That sounds like a problem, assuming he is calling her just for conversation purposes. You need to talk to him and possibly drag him to counseling. He needs to get his priorities in order now or you need to leave, especially if you believe that he has an interest in his ex that he can't move past.
    spottedpony

    Answer by spottedpony at 11:10 AM on Jan. 6, 2011

  • Unless there are children involved, this is not acceptable

    bjojola

    Answer by bjojola at 11:12 AM on Jan. 6, 2011

  • how did you find out
    did he tell you or did you fall upon this info
    if he has kids of course they will talk
    if no kids- no reason to do this (no reason that is a good reason)
    if he was hiding this = very bad
    how often do they talk?
    i would be talking to him and keeping eye on this
    not good that he has blown it off- he is blowing off your feelings, making your feelings NO BIG DEAL- not good
    fiatpax

    Answer by fiatpax at 11:12 AM on Jan. 6, 2011

  • :/ I still talk to all my exs BUT my husband KNOWS that I talk to them.My ex is one of my BEST friends...but that is just the kinda person I am..I am super friendly and I have no sexual ties to the ex at all but he was my longest relationship before my husband and i call and ask for advice all the time and he does the same with me...my husband has no exs :(
    All you can do is tell him how it makes you feel,if he had to HIDE it from you then it really IS a BIG deal!
    ryanlynn

    Answer by ryanlynn at 11:13 AM on Jan. 6, 2011

  • I'm with the other ladies.There really isn't enough info..
    tnmomofive

    Answer by tnmomofive at 11:14 AM on Jan. 6, 2011

  • yep, need more info.

    have talked to a few exes since i've been married. It CERTAINLY does not mean i want to have sex with them or see them. I think you need to calm down & not worry so much.
    samurai_chica

    Answer by samurai_chica at 11:17 AM on Jan. 6, 2011

  • we need more information about the ex. is there a specific reason you don't want him talking to her, or just the fact she's an ex? how did you find out, on your own or did he tell you?
    tnm786

    Answer by tnm786 at 11:22 AM on Jan. 6, 2011

  • she called me yesterday!!!! He was cheating with her 3 months before we got married!!! he said before getting married that it was OVER with them, come to find out he never stopped calling her! no kids nothing in common!!!
    Mrsdavis33

    Comment by Mrsdavis33 (original poster) at 11:32 AM on Jan. 6, 2011

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