OK... So I need your honest opinion on what you think I should do or rather what would you do?
My MIL... Here we go, I don’t even know where to start. Well I'll start by saying we have never gotten along very well. When I met my husband, her husband had just passed 2 days earlier. So, she was so distraught.(Also, she had a 5 year old at the time) My husband(Chris) had moved in with her to help her with her son. (his brother) well, maybe 4 months after we met we moved in together, she had already been dating other people and his sister moved in as well.
So, Chris(BF at the time) moved in with me, which was great. We lived maybe about 45 minutes from his mom. Well we would take his brother on a lot of the weekends. She met this guy offline and moved him in in less than a week of knowing him. He didn’t have a car or a job so she bought him a new jaguar. (The day prior to her buying him a jag, we asked to borrow a few hundred to fix his car. She said she didnt have that kind of money right now. My truck got stolen the next day so we were without a car altogether.) Anyway, well it turns out this guy is a crazy crack head, so time and time again we have to come "SAVE" Adam (his little brother) from this guy and her. She tries to kill herself multiple times and she wont leave this guy... "shes in love." Well, one time she came to pick up Adam early from our house, because this guy stole her truck and all her deceased husbands tools. She told me that she was just going to drive her and Adam off a bridge so he wouldnt have to live in this horrible life. I in turn took Adam out of the car and wouldnt allow her to take him until she calmed down. This is one of the many incidents where this guy stole, cheat, and lied and she was "kicking him out". NEVER DID!
So, we were planning our wedding and it was already clarified that he was NOT to be at our wedding, she completely understood that was fine. Well, we got bad news about my dad and we had to plan our wedding in less than a month. To save some money we asked if we can do the reception in her backyard. She said of course. (Her still knowing and saying he(the crack head BF won’t be there) So I planned everything I got a dance floor, chairs, tables, dj and it was all paid for. The night before my wedding, she calls and says if he can’t be at your wedding, you can’t have the reception here! Yep, THE NIGHT BEFORE! So I panicked, I didnt want this man at my wedding. So, my husband and I told her, we said fine we won’t have a reception. I told her, the only thing that matters to me is I’m marring the love of my life and my dad get to give me away, before he passes. She then in turn said, well if hes not invited to the wedding Im not going. I just told her ok fine, you will regret this later on, when you are no longer with this man. Adam was one of our ring barriers and all of our things were at her house... Our decorations all of our food (we were just going to BBQ some steaks, hamburgers, hotdogs) She said since she let us borrow 500 bucks (like that pays for anything) shes not giving any of this stuff back to us (still the night before). So, I run to walmart and start buying random stuff for food and decor...
Meanwhile, my little brother has my phone and her boyfriend starts texting me nasty things, calling me every name in the book and so forth. So, my brother of coarse gets pissed, goes and picks up Chris and they call his mom and say we are on our way if he has something to say then he can say it to me. So, she says we dont want any trouble and by the time my husband get there theyre gone. So they wait for hours... then Chris just calls and asked if he canhjust get the stuff, he wont do anything to the b/f. She says no, that all my stuff. So, Chris jumps through his brothers window and grabs everything that he can fine thats ours. (Of coarse our steaks were missing) He and my brother drive back. He gets a text about an hour later of a broken in window and a slit through the screen that says “we are calling the police and tell them you did this”. Chris writes back, fine I have the text proving that you broke the window. They never called the police, instead I got a phone call from her saying, she was sorry and she will be there. She said that she will still bring my decorations and decorate. We all get to bed; I wake up without a care in the world. I dont give a crap about anything besides Im marring the man of my dreams. She shows up wearing ALL WHITE, and I guess threw the decorations down on the ground and said “I’m not decorating this stupid wedding”. My brother picks up the decorations and says, “You don’t have to”. He decorated my whole wedding. I didn’t know any of this or care about any of this on that day. I was getting ready and so excited! That was it we didn’t talk to her for a whole year after that (BEST YEAR EVER). Ok so she was still with this guy for several years until last new year’s. CONT..
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