My mom is great and I know loves my son, but, he's the only boy that she has ever been around. She only raised girls and she had foster children that were mostly girls that stayed with us the longest. Well she was well, shocked to find out I was having a boy.. she said she wasn't sure what she was going to do.. Sometimes still I feel like she's disappointed I had a boy because he's full on active and has those aggressive moments and just does what I think is normal KID things but she always refers to them as BOY things as if its bad.. I'm 32 and happily married so Its not like it affects me that much but I guess the comments feel more like they are negative against him being a boy. She even made a comment Last night when he lol... licked his papi's shirt after eating..lol.. ok gross and I made him wipe it off and apologize but he was just being goofy and silly.. she looked at me and said "Oh , you should have had a girl" and it seems like every other time we are there, she makes a comment..
Answer by BridgetC140 at 8:07 PM on Jan. 6, 2011
Answer by Momma_Forever at 5:02 PM on Jan. 6, 2011
Answer by lambdarose at 5:13 PM on Jan. 6, 2011
Answer by scout_mom at 6:05 PM on Jan. 6, 2011
You could not control the gender of your child. And you can't control your moms thoughts or feelings. But you do have some say in how she expresses that around your child. Acknowledge that she would have liked another little girl in the family, you respect her thoughts and feelings (even if you don't agree or really respect it - just say it to be graceful and not cause drama), and then firmly say no comments about gender in front of our boy. Explain he had no control over the universe, you know she loves him, and you don't want him to get mixed messages that his family thinks he is out of place. Your mom is entitled to her thoughts and opinions. She is not entitled to hurt your son's feelings.
Answer by frogdawg at 6:09 PM on Jan. 6, 2011
Answer by Freela at 6:27 PM on Jan. 6, 2011
Answer by Christina807 at 9:55 PM on Jan. 6, 2011