She will be 5 in a few months... has had lifelong issues w/ going to the bathroom that the doctors constantly blew off and simply looked at me as a young mom and said she was constipated. took her at least 20 times, and they gave me the same answer, took her to different doctors, and they only put her on laxatives. finally got in w/ a surgeon that believed me when i said something was not right, & she has had many surgeries to correct her "anal stenosis" that she was BORN with, and the pedi missed it at birth, and all her check ups, and all her visits i took her in specifically for this problem for. she now has anal stenosis all over again, where scar tissue built back up, and she needs to have another surgery to open her bottom up more. been on tons of medicine, tons of dilitations at home which have been awful, tons of enemas, dieting, and so much pain with trying to go potty. so here we are... almost 5 years later.......................the new surgeon today just told us she will need to have part of her colon removed because it has been so stretched out and will never work. i am sick over the fact that because the doctors missed this, she is having to have a 4 hour procedure and be put through this. has to stay in the hospital up to two weeks after...........& i will be having another child in march.
my question is...........what do you do when you really feel like you've hit rock bottom? my nerves are shot, i am constantly ill thinking about this, the risks, the pain, the horrible times that lay ahead.. trying to decide to do this before the baby so i dont have to leave a newborn for so many days, or after the baby is born, try to stay healthy in my pregnancy, take care of my 1 year old, not let my soon to be 5 year old see me cry, not let the internet scare me of colostomy issues and surgeries, feel like im always doing things alone since my husband is a cop who works ridiculous hours and is never home, dealing with court from child support when i dont even care about money, but the state requires me to always attend, trying to stay positive, trying to deal with so many people telling me to talk to a lawyer about sue'ing my childs pediatritians, ugh...................
how do you not break down? I havent yet, and I am a firm believer in God, which is getting me through this, but I just want my child to be healthy and happy........& the road ahead is scaring me to death where I want to crawl in a hole.
What are ways to keep YOU happy? thanks
Asked by Anonymous at 5:57 PM on Jan. 6, 2011 in General Parenting
Answer by INmommyof1 at 6:01 PM on Jan. 6, 2011
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Answer by parrishsky at 6:25 PM on Jan. 6, 2011
You need to let it out. Have a good cry in the shower. Beat the stuffing out of your pillow. Allow yourself to release and you will feel much better. You deserve to let it all out. Shame on the doctors for not listening to you over the years. I will be keeping you and your daughter in my thoughts.
Answer by zebbiebug at 6:35 PM on Jan. 6, 2011
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