im filing for divorce in 2 weeks. dh treats be really bad, always puttin me down and then talks to all these woman in secrete and sneeks out to to see them, after gettin caught he swears nothing happened that they are just friends. a few weeks ago i found condoms in his pockts while i was doing laundry. i had enough im done. i am a full time college student going for my degree in pharm tech so i can be nationally certified. i graduate in june. i got my pharm tech license this month but not certified. CPht gets paid more and have a better chance of finding a job compared to those that are not certified.then i will be starting pre-med this coming fall. dh and i were separated 2 years ago after i caught him with another woman, he called into work and went to her house, i went over and she answered the door naked and dh was naked covered up on the couch. after 6mnths i stupidly took him back. i know i can handle being a single mom, i actually did better on my own than i am with dh, considering that since he came back we are now behind on bills.
i talked to a person at the college that runs the family dorms, its housing through the college for student parents and its all utilities paid and what rent i would pay would be taken out of my financial aide,thank god i took out a student loan, it looks like i got the apartment and i will get state daycare for the kids and have a few options to choose from. (kids are 8,6,and3) the daycares im lookin into will provide transportation for my older 2 for school.( my classes start at 8 am and kids start at 830am and cant be dropped off at school more that 15 min early)
i have someone from the college helping me figure things out as far as gettin assistance and what to do next,and friends and family offering support, even then im feelin so overwhelmed and even though i have people telling me that i seem so confident and strong in this situation, im really scared as hell. im walking away from a 12 year relationship and now its a little harder than i thought it would be cause i still love him but i know he wont change. he is sneeking around now with a married woman and he doesnt think i know but i read his text messages to and from her.
sorrry this is hella long...
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