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im in need of a pep talk....going through a divorce

im filing for divorce in 2 weeks. dh treats be really bad, always puttin me down and then talks to all these woman in secrete and sneeks out to to see them, after gettin caught he swears nothing happened that they are just friends. a few weeks ago i found condoms in his pockts while i was doing laundry. i had enough im done. i am a full time college student going for my degree in pharm tech so i can be nationally certified. i graduate in june. i got my pharm tech license this month but not certified. CPht gets paid more and have a better chance of finding a job compared to those that are not certified.then i will be starting pre-med this coming fall. dh and i were separated 2 years ago after i caught him with another woman, he called into work and went to her house, i went over and she answered the door naked and dh was naked covered up on the couch. after 6mnths i stupidly took him back. i know i can handle being a single mom, i actually did better on my own than i am with dh, considering that since he came back we are now behind on bills.
i talked to a person at the college that runs the family dorms, its housing through the college for student parents and its all utilities paid and what rent i would pay would be taken out of my financial aide,thank god i took out a student loan, it looks like i got the apartment and i will get state daycare for the kids and have a few options to choose from. (kids are 8,6,and3) the daycares im lookin into will provide transportation for my older 2 for school.( my classes start at 8 am and kids start at 830am and cant be dropped off at school more that 15 min early)
i have someone from the college helping me figure things out as far as gettin assistance and what to do next,and friends and family offering support, even then im feelin so overwhelmed and even though i have people telling me that i seem so confident and strong in this situation, im really scared as hell. im walking away from a 12 year relationship and now its a little harder than i thought it would be cause i still love him but i know he wont change. he is sneeking around now with a married woman and he doesnt think i know but i read his text messages to and from her.
sorrry this is hella long...


Asked by Anonymous at 9:02 PM on Jan. 6, 2011 in Relationships

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Answers (8)
  • You msound extemely smart and strong your kids are lucky to have you. You dont need a loser to drag you down. Get rid of him leave him to the ho bags, you will make something of yourself and found a great guy someday totreat you right but try to put men on the backburner and concentrate on mthat gret carer and your wonderful kids! You go girl! You are a positive role model for us all!

    Answer by 21lisa72 at 2:03 PM on Jan. 7, 2011

  • U go girl! U are totally heading in the right direction. Make sure u go and get checked for Stds. File for divorce get your child support and whatever help u need to finish school. Find u a good job get ur business together and do this....uve already got 95% of it whipped.

    You dont need someoen who one deserves that. Man up and say ur not happy and get on down the road.

    Answer by Sandyr911 at 10:41 PM on Jan. 6, 2011

  • you are so right to know what's best for you and your you sound like you know what you want and seem to be determined to go after it.,.,I wish you all the best...

    Answer by JazzyJes at 9:10 PM on Jan. 6, 2011

  • Yes, you are right to leave and you are overwhelmed right now but it will work out and be okay.GL (((((HUGS)))

    Answer by pinkdragon36 at 10:17 PM on Jan. 6, 2011

  • Your friends and family are right you are a very strong person, but keep in mind you dont want your kids thinking its okay to cheat; they need to know what a healthy relationship looks like. Stay strong and good luck you know you can do this!

    Answer by My2boys0523 at 10:59 PM on Jan. 6, 2011

  • You are definitely doing the right thing! It might be a little difficult at first, but you have everything you need to make it!! Good Luck!

    Answer by Austinsmom35 at 6:26 PM on Jan. 7, 2011

  • OMG . The still being in love with him part sucks. Been there . Me and mine went through a VERY tough time. We are through it now . Forever i hope. But still if its ongoing you must leave and teach him to respect you by not taking crap from him. The children need to see you standing up for yourself and bettering yourself so good on you. Life is full of hard decisions. Keep your girlfriends close to you .... and dont introduce them to him...(for obvious reasons) Best of luck.

    Answer by prettymango at 1:23 PM on Jan. 8, 2011

  • Do not be a door mat dear,he knows how to play you.Change locks,change phone numbers and move on .sounds like you have it going on with out that looser.It is up to you.This life or make a great life you are happy to live.Good luck.

    Answer by grismelda at 4:20 PM on Feb. 28, 2011

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