My DS is just a few weeks shy of his 5th birthday. He's always been a difficult child to put things nicely. Very smart, but one immature behavior after another. Of course eventually with age the behaviors fix themselves, but then a new one seems to develop. Lately it seems we have made great leaps and bounds when it comes to controlling his anger and interacting with peers, but oh my goodness have we digressed at bedtime. DS goes to preschool every other day (3 days a week) so on school night his routine is dinner, short playtime, bath then bed. On non school nights its dinner, a longer playtime, and then bed. For the longest time we had no real issues, a fussy night every once in awhile that would end around 11pm or so. For about the last week DS has not gone to sleep any earlier then 2am, even though he's been put to bed in the same manner as always. We've tried rewards, we've tried punishment, we've tried allowing him to sleep in mommies bed, we've tried enforcing his bed. The problem is I can't be up enforcing any bedtime rules till 2am when he has school the next day, the kid has to sleep. And my stubborn child does not learn from going to school sleepy, the next night the struggle will start all over. One night this week he got himself so worked up in the bedtime struggle he actually hyperventilated and vomited. At that point I caved and laid down with him in his room, but I can't do this every night. I have no idea where to go next. If we didn't have school I'd take the cry it out approach since I'm fully aware I'm in a power struggle with my 4 year old, but I can't do that since he has to be up for school. I've had several talks with him about things that may be bothering him, his vocabulary for his age and cognitive abilities are phenomenal and he's never had issues with telling me what's wrong. But lately its just the petty things, he wants a drink, he wants a movie, he wants a few more minutes to play or just isn't tired even though his eyes are red and puffy. Is this just a growth spurt thing that will wear itself out? Any have any idea how to get him in bed and asleep before 2am? I don't want to move his bedtime up to like 5pm, since that seems ridiculous, but I feel like I'm running out of other options.
Answer by ashisamom at 12:07 AM on Jan. 7, 2011
Answer by amessageofhope at 12:34 AM on Jan. 7, 2011
Answer by MeandMyBabes at 2:54 PM on Jan. 7, 2011