One has to come first... and which it will be is entirely the choice of each woman involved. The fact is, at the worst possible moment, you will be required to put one or the other first --you will have no choice at all when that moment happens, and it will. When you think you can have it all, all at once, you will find that what you can have it utter insanity.
Did you see the OJ trial? That woman lawyer, in the middle of a custody order to not miss ONE more afterschool pick up, or she'd lose access to her daughter forever, the judge said 'we'll have a meeting in my chambers following this session until 7pm' --it was job or family, right there, as big as possible. Everyone ends up in a situation like that, often over and over and over.
As a SAHM, it wasn't a sacrifice to turn down money to stay with my family --managing money is something everyone needs to do, whether they have millions or $4. Time's the same.
at 3:10 AM on Jan. 7, 2011