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how can i get over him

my sons not over him...i cant stop it!
how do i get over him. i still love him...ugh. and i shouldnt

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Asked by JT32606 at 12:49 PM on Jan. 7, 2011 in Relationships

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  • Find someone else.

    Answer by tootoobusy at 12:51 PM on Jan. 7, 2011

  • i did.....i cant stop talking to or seeing my ex...its terrible.

    Comment by JT32606 (original poster) at 12:52 PM on Jan. 7, 2011

  • Then go back to him. Make him marry you if you love him. Otherwise you are just a booty call on kid drop off.

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:53 PM on Jan. 7, 2011

  • Move on; busy yurself with other things. Mayb there is a goo reason it didn't work out. You will find soemone better.

    Answer by sarag82 at 12:55 PM on Jan. 7, 2011

  • we were married.....
    we dont have sex when we see each other. we just hang out.
    he can be very cruel....
    and he was abusive to me. thats why i left him in the first place.
    after 6 months of not seeing/talking......he seems to have turned his life around for the better.
    but i know its all a scam and he will just go back to his old ways.... i love him very much, even after all the terrible things hes done.
    hence, why i need to figure out how to get over him, and let him go. he cant seem to let me go either.

    Comment by JT32606 (original poster) at 12:55 PM on Jan. 7, 2011

  • There is a book called How to Fall Out of Love. It's about a dollar or try your library. You don't even have to read the whole book, just the chapter you need. I didn't think I'd ever get over my x but the book helped me.

    Answer by admckenzie at 12:56 PM on Jan. 7, 2011

  • If he is not ready to commit then leave it alone your jut the bm that he occasionaly fu** when he cant find someone else so not worth it try being single for awhile

    Answer by Marie_07 at 12:56 PM on Jan. 7, 2011

  • WE DONT HAVE SEX!!! WE DONT DO ANYTHING PHYSICAL! WE ARE STILL MARRIED, but we are in the process of a divorce

    Comment by JT32606 (original poster) at 12:57 PM on Jan. 7, 2011

  • First of all getting a "new man" isn't going to help you grieve, which is what all relationships need at the end... not some guy to be a rebound??? Relationships feel good because they are supposed to, otherwise we'd never have kids! They hurt at the end because they mattered!!! Grieve...

    Answer by MommaClark3 at 12:58 PM on Jan. 7, 2011

  • This is tough. Having just gone through a breakup myself, with my 2 month old son's father, I'm just trying to stay busy and distract myself with other interests. Self-improvement is a good way to distract yourself. Do you want to be healthier, more spiritual, etc? You know they say the best revenge is to live well.

    Answer by beshka76 at 12:59 PM on Jan. 7, 2011

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