My mom moved in with us last spring. It's one of those things that seemed like a great idea at the time. Now, however, it's really putting a strain on our relationship (mine and my moms) because she's my mom but it's our house so sometimes I have to ask her to do things a certain way, keep up with the dishes (that's her ONLY chore) and I kind of feel like I have another child. Now we have another baby on the way and we're having to move around bedrooms to fit everyone. For the record, we didn't think we were able to have more kids and were pleasantly surprised by this baby and are THRILLED to have her join our family soon.
My mom is kind of ...ok VERY sensitive. I don't want our asking her to move to turn into a big huge falling out. I want very much for her to continue to be a big part of our life but I worry that if we don't word this just perfectly, she'll fly off the handle and I'll lose her.
Here are a couple of pieces of background info that might help to know:
1. We are not in any hurry to get her moved out. The baby's not due till May 4th and even if my mom never moves, we'll have room for her...it'll just be kind of a pain to move everyone around.
2. When my mom moved in, she gave my brother some of her furniture (living room & kitchen especially) since he was getting an apartment at the same time. So I'm feeling a bit guilty about that. On a similar note, we sold our second car because my mom works midnights and anytime I need to go somewhere during the day, while my husband is at work, I just use her car. I know both of these things are easily remedied, but I still feel guilty about it.
3. My husband has not come out and said anything, nor would he ever, but I'm getting strong hints and vibes from him that he's increasingly uncomfortable with this current living situation. While I tend to agree with him that maybe it's time for her to move on soon, I feel like I'm in the middle because it's MY mom.
Ok, so any advice or suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks!
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