Spanking? Time outs? Groundings? How do you punish your children and how old are they? Does it work?
Answer by hibbingmom at 10:59 PM on Jan. 7, 2011
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Answer by MommyBulger at 11:00 PM on Jan. 7, 2011
I find more and more I don't have to do any of the above. We never spanked. I do redirection before the situation gets out of control. A great saying is be a thermostat and not a thermometer. Meaning you set the tone and temperature instead of just taking the temperature and checking in every once in a while. If I set the tone and lead by example...it goes well. For example: my four year old was about to go into full crying mode in the car because I didn't understand what he was saying. Instead of getting angry because he was raising his voice while crying I gently reminded him I can't figure it out until he talks more calmly. Then I said, "What do we do when we feel bad." His answer was he can get a hug and talk it out. So I reached back and held his hand for a minute and said, "let's talk." Before a situation reaches the boiling point I say our code word. Then I ask if he would like some personal
Answer by frogdawg at 9:50 AM on Jan. 8, 2011
time in his room to relax. We also call this personal space. He can take his time and space any place he wants and any time he wants. This has been our way since he was two so often he is his own thermostat now and will tell us he needs some time and space to relax. We also brainstorm together when an issue comes up. It helps him to problem solve on his own. Sometimes all that is nice but doesn't work. I hate time out. It always seems to escalate the frustrations. So if it is too late - I hold and rock. Empathize. Doesn't mean I give in. I also use creativity in the moment. Once he peed a few times next to the toilet but not in it. So I gave him a spray bottle and paper towels. Never did it again. I could have yelled but not the same effect. So love, creativity, understanding, and self regulation.
Answer by frogdawg at 9:54 AM on Jan. 8, 2011
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Answer by kyiahsmommy at 11:02 PM on Jan. 7, 2011
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Answer by Fallaya at 11:48 PM on Jan. 7, 2011