My brother got engaged a year ago. So for the past year I have been helping my future sister in law with everything, she would call everyday with a " wedding emergency" and I would drop everything and go help her. I even paid for alot of things. The whole time I assumed I was going to be the maid of honor because she doesnt have any family members ( besides her mom ) and I am my brother's only sister, and she only has one "friend" but they havent actually talked in over a year ( besides like a hi or a text here and there) ... but then we didnt talk for a week ( my FIL died and we went to stay with my MIL in another state ) and over that time I didnt really have that much contact with her..... when we got home I got a call from my aunt asking me why I wasnt a bridesmaid ... I said " what?" and she said that my SIL asked the friend that she barely talks to, my 13 year old cousin, and 2 girls thats she works with ( that she doesnt talk to or see outside of work) .......
When I seen her I asked if she had picked all of her wedding party yet ( I didnt want to just come out and ask her) ... and she said yes and she told me she did and that she already let everyone know and that her and "her girls" are going next week to do their dresses , and wanted to know if I could drive my kids there seperatly ( my son is the ring barrer and my daughter is the flower girl) because her and "her girls" are going ot have an all day thing together .....
That just hurt my feelings sooo much ! I mean I understnad she never exactly asked me will you be my bridesmaid, but when she said things " we are going to look so good on the big day" and talking about getting our nails done the same way, and since I helped her plan it all I just assumed I would atleast be apart of it... especially since the people she did chose arent even close to her...
also I know it is her wedding, her choice... I just want to know if I basically have a "right" to be upset over this ?
Asked by Anonymous at 11:32 PM on Jan. 7, 2011 in Relationships
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