I married the wrong man. I'm sure I know who the right one was/is. First loves.. die hard. Known each other since grade school. Know we're right for each other. But it never has and never will happen.
Intertwining, family, children in the mix.. Oops. Too late for deciding what I want to do on a whim or just because it's what I want.
^ is a fantasy that will never become reality.
Yes, I have a very, very, tough heart. Anything for my children. Anything.
As a spin, though, does anyone think I should leave the hubby for the long lost love? Whether or not it would work out. Simply because I don't really love hubby in that way? Despite what it would do to my children?
Our relationship is not volatile or even lacking in caring, it is just passionless.
Your opinions will not change what I have already decided, but I am curious what some random strangers think. My heart hurts so badly. I like to hear the non-romantic and romantic banter of others about soul mates, love, etc.. And at least you're bound to be honest..
ETA: This is not a new feeling for me, ladies. Not new at all. I've wanted to be with this other man since we were kids. He turned me away for a long time.. but he wants this too but we won't do it. Won't. I won't hurt my children like that.
This isn't a "mistaking the lack of "passionate love" for the consumate/continuous sort. I know the psychology. I was simply asking you if you thought that maybe people will be with the wrong man for the right reasons.. If you could relate.. if you had any thoughts on it.
This is not a new relationship. I've been with this man for 8 years.. The passion disappeared well before we had children, years ago.. and I have addressed him about it. He simply says if you're not happy leave.
Well gee, thanks.
@ a recent question: because I wanted children. And.. I DO love him. I don't want to hurt him. I just wish we lived in a different sort of world, where we could have different loves in our lives at once. He's a good friend to me. We just don't seem to have a lot of similarities in core values or emotionality, which severely constricts us. I think he makes a great part to my puzzle but my puzzle is not complete with just him in it.Answer Question
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