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how can i talk to my liitle nine year daughter she is asking me what dirty words means that other kids are saying at school

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Asked by tammy372011 at 8:55 PM on Jan. 8, 2011 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • Just be totally honest, tell her what they mean. Truthfulness is learned early, and she'll eventually learn the meaning elsewhere so it's better for you to tell her.

    Also let her know why you're not okay with those words being used, and let her know how other kids may learn it from siblings, tv, parents, etc.

    Good luck..

    You might also let the school know that the words are being used casually among the young students, maybe they'll send a flyer home for parents to talk with their kids, or hold an assembly/ have teachers discuss the topic.

    Answer by Skepticchick at 8:59 PM on Jan. 8, 2011

  • I have an 8 y/o dau, & as certain words come up, we talk about how they're not nice words & what they mean. Some of those words have your basic obvious meaning. (Thank God the "C" word hasnt been thrown out there yet. I hate that word.) This is just the beginning of the awkward conversations thanks to friends at school. (Most of them have older siblings that give our younger ones a bit of an education!- Thanks but no thanks!)

    Answer by mrsmom110 at 9:01 PM on Jan. 8, 2011

  • The truth --including the social implications of those words.

    It is worth mentioning that what is currently 'horror of horrors' in modern English have not always been obscene or even derogatory words... and probably will not stay that way for the rest of her life. The 'c' word, as it's known, is merely Anglo-saxon for female genitalia --not some original obscenity designed to horrify prim little old ladies. Just a translation in a different language... same as all the rest of them.

    All of our curse words are either animalistic (bitch) or sexual/body parts. It was not always thus.

    Try to minimize your emotional reaction to words --they have enough power without adding to it inside your home. And encourage a wider range of vocabulary to more-closely match her intelligence.

    Answer by LindaClement at 9:07 PM on Jan. 8, 2011

  • The truth and what the consequences of her using those words will be. She isn't so little that she won't figure them out or find out on her own.

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 9:40 PM on Jan. 8, 2011

  • Be honest with her. She's going to find out one way or another, but since she's asking you it's your chance to tell her the truth. It is soo wrong to lie to a child when they're asking about something they are curious about. It's also wrong to sugar coat and answer to avoid being embarrassed, or to avoid letting them "Know too early". Kids are curious by nature and it's important to give them the absolute truth about what they want to know. Regardless of how uncomfortable it is for you to explain it.

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 11:18 PM on Jan. 8, 2011

  • I think you just need to be honest with her. The more honest you are with her the more honest she will be with you. There is no reason to hide things from her, and the meaning of words is only important for her to know.

    Answer by AzariahsMother at 7:29 PM on Jan. 9, 2011

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