I have a 9 year old dd. Her father and I are not together and I am married (been married for 6 years) My husband and I are planning a trip to Japan, where he is from. We have been planning it for a year and we, including my dd, are VERY excited. His parents (who have ALWAYS treated my dd like their own grandchild, in fact, she was the only until I had my younger 2) moved back to Japan 2 1/2 years ago to be with his fathers mother in her last years. This is prob gonna be the last time my husband sees his grandmother, and she was his only grangparent growing up. We will be leaving in 2 1/2 weeks and the trip is all paid for. The problem is, my ex called yesterday saying that he is getting married in 3 weeks. He gets our dd every other weekend, though he usually only sees her 1 sat a month due to his schedule. The weekend he is getting married is not even his weekend AND we will be in Japan. I feel that if it was so important for her to be there, he could have told me about it sooner (aparently, the wedding date has been set for 2 months). I also feel that he should have set his weeding date on his weekend to ensure she would be able to be there (as I did with my wedding) The other thing that gets me is he signed for me to get a pasport for my dd and KNEW before they set a date, when we would be there, he says he forgot. Well while this trip was planned first and is very important to all of us, I thought the fairest way would be to let my dd choose, she said she wants to come to Japan. I really want her to go and the other problem with her staying is after the wedding, we will still be gone for another week, so she has no one to stay with as he is going on his honeymoon, my mom will be out of town and his mother is too sick to care for her for that long. I think that as this is what she wants, she should get to come with us. He threatened to take this to court but then he found out that there is not enough time and his lawyer told him he would prob not win anyway.
Asked by Anonymous at 9:35 PM on Jan. 8, 2011 in General Parenting
Answer by MaryMW at 10:40 PM on Jan. 8, 2011
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Answer by Noosa at 9:45 PM on Jan. 8, 2011
No one should make anyone do something they don't want to, unless they are a child and will learn an important lesson from it. A 9 year old isn't going to learn much at a wedding.
Answer by LadyQuin at 11:37 PM on Jan. 8, 2011