Ok. So my daughters father has a court ordered visitaition oder and never follows it. I ususally take her to him on the days he is suppose to have her. He is suppose to have her on mondays and wednesday and every other weekend. Well with the exception of maybe 2 wks he picked her up from school as ordered on monday and wednesday and after that he had not made any of the visits. I have taken my daughter to his moms house when I work weekendds and sometimes he comes over for a little but the mom ends up watching her. Over the winter break he was "too busy" and couldnt watch her so U had to send her to emergency daycare. (she is 3 by the way) Well the last time that he was watching her at his mothers house he refused to let me in and would not give my daughter to me when I went to pick her up./ He is so violent towrds me that it makes my daughter scared and she does notwant to go to his house. Well today I didnt take her to his house which is ordered, but she does not want to go and I dont want to go because there is going to drama and violenece and he may not open the door to give her to me. So now he is content in calling the cops to have a warrant out for me. Can I really be arrested If I didnt followi it for one day when he has failed to follow it for many days?
I tell him that she will be taken to foster care if I was truly arrested and he doesnt care.. He only wants to follow visitaion order when he is mad and . What should I do. Cops have been telling me to get a restraining order against him but I have not done so. He will go to court tomorrow morning to file something against me and I really dont know what to do.
Asked by Anonymous at 8:51 AM on Jan. 9, 2011 in General Parenting
Answer by cornflakegirl3 at 8:58 AM on Jan. 9, 2011
Document these events. Also the times you are paying for emergency daycare because he didn't show up, save the receipts. Keep any phone recordings you have of him, video tape (discreetly) any confrontations you have to have with him. I don't know how old your daughter is but if she can speak, her statements matter too. I would not violate the court order yourself follow the rules and he will burn himself. Get a restraining order like the cops suggested, but first contact a lawyer to find out what is legal in your state, Good luck!
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